Betty Ann Kay

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North Haven- Betty Ann Stults Kay, 70, formerly of Cooper Rd., passed away peacefully at her residence on Thursday, May l7, 2007 with her children present. Born in St. Louis, Missouri on November 13, 1936, she was the daughter of the late Lester B. and Estelle Stults. She received her B.S. degree in Nursing from the Missouri School of Nursing in 1958 and did her graduate work in Nursing at Washington University. Despite a lifelong struggle with mental illness, she found tremendous comfort and satisfaction in caring for the infirm. Her work with various home care agencies and Hospice marked some of the highlights of her nursing career. Her family and friends will forever remember her courage in the face of her illness and her colorful sense of humor. Ann loved spending time with her children and grandchildren, loved animals, horseback riding, and painting. The family would like to express their thanks to her caregivers at Skyview Nursing and Rehabilitation Center for the comfort and protection they provided during her final years. She is survived by three children and their spouses: Jennifer and Peter Elsemore of Raymond, NH; Pamela and Jess Holler of Ft. Collins, CO; and Ronald F. and Barbara Kay of Brunswick, ME. She is also survived by a sister Virginia Bowers and her husband Ralph, of Columbia, Missouri, and 2 granddaughters, Madigan Behrens Kay of Brunswick, ME and Sara Elsemore of Raymond, NH. She was predeceased by a sister, Corrine Harder of Jackson, CA. A private memorial service for immediate family will be held later in the summer. Contributions in Ann Kay's memory may be made to the Connecticut Humane Society, 701 Russell Road, Newington, CT 06111.

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  1. Ann was a fun classmate of the 1958 Mizzou BSN Nursing class. She was a beautiful person, both inside and out. I have only fond memories of both she and her beautiful sister.

  2. Ann was the prettiest girl in our MO. U Nursing class. Her beauty was deeper and it showed in her loving and caring ways. We both grew up in St. Louis but only got to know her at MU. She is missed, and may these words be a comfort to her loved ones.

  3. Dear Family of Ann: I am so sorry to hear of Ann’s passing. She was a very special, dear and wonderful person whose courage inspired me to face my own demons of mental illness when I was initially diagnosed many years ago. I will always remember her wonderful sense of humor, as well as our .Thought for the Day. when we talked on the phone. I never in my life laughed as much as when Ann was in my life and we were both well. Although I hadn’t seen her in quite a while, she was always in my thoughts and now will always be in my heart. I wish all of you the peace that only knowing how much she loved you all can bring.

  4. I have many memories of times our families spent together,, one ,,,, a laugh shared for years by our parents,,, Mrs. Kay convinced my Mom to try horse back riding, quite an achievement, and after a few awkward starts they went off in to the woods, my Mom feeling ever more confident,,,until they went over a wasp nest, not good! An out of control horse, a few stings, and a mother who refused to ever ride again. Seems they decided to try hiking together too, one time at sleeping giant state park. No wasps this time just one lonely .gentlemen. hiker, who seemed to think it would be fun to flash these two lovely women, I can just imagine their faces!!! my thoughts are with you all!! love, Kath

  5. I’ll always treasure the beauty of Ann’s character as a caring classmate in our nursing class. Her family are in my prayers. Margaret Perry Wesner Mizzou ’58

  6. Mrs.Kay was a very beautiful person. I had the opportunity to work for her taking care of her three lovely children/and helping her at her home in North Haven. I’m going to deeply miss her and wish to keep in contact with her family. I loved her warm generousity. I will always remember the GREAT times we had and my thoughts and prays will be with her and her family. Thank you for this opportunity to let me express my deeply condolences. I am so happy I dropped in time after time to visit her. She has a place in my heart and there isn’t too many people like her. Love from Sue and her family God bless you ALL.

  7. Thank you for this memorial. Ann was and will always be her father’s daughter. Her amazing personality and humor echoes in my heart. I will miss her. She will be remembered.

  8. To the family of Ann Kay, I worked for Dr. Nelson for nearly 10 years and got to know Ann very well. I was her .therapist. when Dr. Nelson was not available. We had a very special relationship and I was sad to hear of her passing. Jennifer, I send my condolences to you and I hope that you are doing well. Ann was a wonderful, caring person. She had a great sense of humor and I always enjoyed speaking with her and visiting with her. My condolences go out to the entire family. Sincerely, Rhonda Way

  9. To the Family of Betty Kay: I would like to express my sincere sympathy to you all at the passing of your mother. You are in my thoughts and prayers. While I did not personally know Mrs. Kay, I learned about how lovely a lady she was through her daughter Pam.

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