Mary Elizabeth Dorr Staffer, “MEDS,” 63, passed away on September 5, 2020 after a short illness. Born on April 9, 1957 to the late Samuel and Jean Cocking Dorr. She considered herself a North Haven girl although she briefly attended school in Wallingford. Mary was a hard working, well organized woman in the home and employment. She started her career at the Ramada Inn, then went on to work for Blue Cross for over seventeen years. She continued on to work for Health Net for another seventeen years, primarily in customer service, and lastly was an Imaging Coordinator for six years at Franchisee World Headquarters. Mary loved good food, whether dining out or eating in – she made the best home fries ever, but took the recipe with her. She always remembered people on special occasions, such as birthdays, holidays or anniversaries. Mary’s favorite saying was “whatever.” She enjoyed “The Big E” every year for over 30 years, some years going more than once. She enjoyed good movies and television programs. Mary was a huge fan of the New England Patriots and Tom Brady, and Cher.
Mary is survived by her husband, Michael; son, Gregory; sister, Edith Ann; sister-in-law, Cheryl Ann; and nephew, Steven; and many friends and acquaintances. She had several good friends whom she considered family. Mary (AKA Mary Cakes & Mary Sauce) will be missed by all – save us a place up there!
Friends may visit with Mary’s family on Friday, September 11th at BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave, Hamden from 10:30 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. followed by her Funeral Service at 12:00 in the funeral home. Burial will be private. Donations in Mary’s memory may be sent to the American Diabetes Association,



Visitation: September 11, 2020 10:30 - 12:00 pm

Beecher & Bennett Funeral Service - Hamden
2300 Whitney Avenue
Hamden, CT 06518


Funeral Service: September 11, 2020 12:00 pm

Beecher & Bennett Funeral Service - Hamden
2300 Whitney Avenue
Hamden, CT 06518


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  1. Michael, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. Our deepest condolences.

  2. Michael and Gregory, I send my sincere condolences. Mary had a good heart and soul always showing kindness that was special. Sincerely, Annette

  3. Michael and Gregory, just read about Mary this morning and extend my sincere sympathy to you both. You both will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. So sad to hear this news! Mary was a wonderful co-worker and a sweet woman who brightened my days at HealthNet & beyond whenever we had the chance to see each other. My sympathies & prayers, Maire

  5. My condolences to the Staffer family. I worked with Mary for 6 years and will remember her as a caring, giving person. Very saddened God be with you Always.
    Robbie Vergnetti

  6. Dear Mike& Greg,
    Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.
    Mary was always kind & fun at our family gatherings. She will be missed and remembered very fondly.
    Sincere condolences,

  7. Michael and Gregory I am very sorry to hear of Mary’s passing. I worked with her at Blue Cross and we had some good laughs. Hugs to you and your family.

  8. Michael and Gregory-So sorry to hear about Mary’s passing. We met in the 7th grade and also worked at Anthem back in the day. I’m so sad that I hadn’t seen her recently. Will never forget what a kind girl she was and how she treated her friends. She never missed a birthday! Always sent a card , dated, with a little note. I’ll miss her smile and her laugh!

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