Diane McNeill Carvalho Tomlinson
September 15, 1944 ~ June 2, 2025
Born in:
Boston, MA
Resided in:
Woodbridge, CT
Diane McNeill Carvalho Tomlinson, 80, of Woodbridge, wife of 16 years to Michael Tomlinson, passed away peacefully on June 2, 2025 at Benchmark at Split Rock in Shelton. Born in Boston, MA on September 15, 1944, she was the daughter of the late Wesley and Lillian McNeill. Diane was the loving mother of Ben Carvalho (Debra) of Liberty Hill, TX and Jennifer Carvalho of Bethany, CT; stepmother of Julie Kavanah (Grant) and Scott Tomlinson (Adrienne), both of Seymour, CT; grandmother of Kristen Cain, Caitlyn, Alexander, and Leif Carvalho; and step-grandmother of Eric and Sydney Marcinko, and Ava and Riley Tomlinson. She was predeceased by her parents, Wesley and Lillian, and her first husband, George Carvalho.
Diane worked as a librarian for the New Haven Public Library for many years, a fitting job for her love of reading books. She also enjoyed doing crossword puzzles, gardening, and traveling to Florida with her husband.
Friends are invited to visit with Diane’s family on Thursday, June 5th from 3:00-5:00 p.m. at Beecher & Bennett Funeral Home, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that you consider a donation to one of two charities close to her heart, the Wounded Warrior Project and the American Cancer Society.
To send condolences, please see her obituary at www.beecherandbennett.com.
Services
Visitation: June 5, 2025 3:00 pm - 5:00 pm
Beecher & Bennett Funeral Service - Hamden
2300 Whitney Avenue
Hamden, CT 06518
203-288-0800
I first met Diane and George many years ago on Newcomb Hollow Beach in Wellfleet and instantly became lifelong friends. You couldn’t meet 2 nicer people. I’m so sorry to read of her loss. It’s been a number of years since seeing Diane as both our lives changed, hers happily meeting and marrying Mike who brought her much happiness and companionship. We shared so many wonderful times over the years…
We shared so many happy times. She was very special and will be truly missed.
John and myself bowled with Mike for upteen years. He introduced us to Diane shortly after they met. We had great times going out to eat after bowling and went to their wedding. Can’t believe it was 16 years ago already. Our sympathies to Mike and the entire family . Diane was a gracious woman.
Rest in Peace my friend
I remember our first trip to Pompano Beach, Fl when we stumbled across a little outside bar at the sea Gardens where we first met Diane and Mike. Over the following next few years we always made sure we went at the same time every year so we would be able to see them and reminisce. Seeing Diane and Mike doing their crosswords and bringing bugs bunny along for a cocktail. The last 3 yrs they shared with us of the Aloha resort where they also stayed. Ever since that is our new place to stay. Now come every October when we return it won’t be the same for she will dearly be missed but we will always have her in our heart and carry on memories.
Deb n Tim Shull
Even as a child, I could see how deeply they loved and cared for each other and for the people around them. That became somewhat of a blueprint for how I try to show up in my own relationships now as an adult.
I remember Diane as someone with a sharp wit and a warm heart, someone I always loved and respected. I wish I’d had the chance to know more about her life as I got older, especially her work as a librarian. I think we would have really bonded over our overlapping careers.
My heart goes out to Mike and to everyone who loved her. Diane will always be part of the fabric of my childhood, and I’ll remember her with so much love.
I was wanting to call & talk with Diane again, I’m so sorry I didn’t do that. She was always kind to me , Rick & my Brother George.
We will pray for all of you & God Bless.