Adelaide E. D'Amato Miller, age 90, of West Haven, passed away on June 24, 2018. Born in New Haven on December 2, 1927, she was the daughter of the late Anthony & Myra (Nickerson) Valentino. Adelaide was predeceased by her former husbands, James D'Amato and James Miller; her longtime companion James McNamara; brothers Anthony 'Sonny' Valentino & Henry Valentino, and her sister Catherine Coppola. She is survived by her sons, James V. D'Amato & his wife Valerie Hendrickson of Greer, SC and Gregory T. D'Amato & his wife Cindy Ross of Stafford, VA, former daughter in-law Susan Smart D'Amato of Greenville, SC, and her granddaughters Alexis D'Amato & Catherine Ross. Having grown up in New Haven, she moved to Charleston, SC for 10 years, then lived for many years in West Haven. Adelaide was employed by the New Haven Register for many years before her retirement. She was an avid golfer with a life membership at the Orange Hills Country Club. Adelaide loved a funny story or joke, and she always enjoyed her music, dancing, and a fine glass of wine. Friends may attend her Graveside Service in Beaverdale Memorial Park, Section G, Hamden on Wednesday, June 27, 2018 at 10:00 AM. Contributions in Adelaide's memory may be made to the CT Humane Society, 701 Russell Rd., Newington, CT 06111. Arrangements are in care of Beecher & Bennett Funeral Home, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden.

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  1. I do miss you already. You were one of the few that lived here with a smile and made me laugh. You were quick-witted. We had great conversations and you lived a wonderful long life. I will never forget how you laughed when you were making a hamburger to eat and it set off the fire alarm between me, Jae and Vicky running in the front door and Bill running in your back door and you just stood there laughing saying I only wanted a hamburger. When the firemen came we had a party going. They were all good looking. I still have the fire chiefs number…LOL..At least you got all new fire alarms I don’t think they wanted to leave. The best day was when I was passing your door and you called out Bonnie can you come in here. I walked in and you said what are you dressing as for the Halloween Party and I replied I haven’t had time to think about it. You looked at me and with that smile and said you are going to be a Gypsy. I said with my mouth opened. Am I? All you need is a black ruffled blouse, lots of bracelets. big earrings, lots of makeup and this, I lost my breath looking at the most beautiful skirt I have ever seen. I said OMG I can’t wear that. You replied I bought this for a cocktail party and never wore it again. You said you have the perfect body for this skirt take it and wear it I will love to see you in it. I did and I came over to show you how I looked and you replied beautiful just beautiful…When I returned the skirt just as you gave it to me. The next day. You said I am passing this down to my granddaughter, I almost passed out I said Addy I would have never worn this if I knew that, You replied if I told you then you wouldn’t have had a good time, with that fantastic smile. I have the picture of me wearing it and I hope your Granddaughter has it and loves it as much as I did. Rest in peace my friend. I hope heaven is one big golf course and they have a glass of wine waiting for you.

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