At WH VAMC Feb. 4, 2012, Barbara E. Lanier of 670 Mix Ave, Hamden, CT. Daughter of the late Beather and Daniel Lanier. Sister of Lillian Owens of Carson, CA., Dr. Jack (Becky) Lanier of Richmond, VA., Dr. Daniel (Kay) Lanier of Chester, VA., Thomas (Patricia) Lanier of Cleveland, OH., Jesse (Barbara M) Lanier of Suffield, CT., Ronald (Marge) Lanier of Stamford, CT., Dr. Garrie (Lavonne) Moore of Greenville, NC., and the late Doris Dada. She also leaves a host of Nieces, Nephews, Cousins, and dear friends. Barbara left no stone unturned. She lead a very active and enjoyable life. She was a member of Dixwell Avenue Congregational United Church of Christ, in younger years active in Sunday School and later years Bible Study and a Good Member. She retired from Southern New England Telephone (SNET) after 32 years. She joined the US Navy while on a Military leave from SNET and later, 'Try One' with Connecticut Army National Guard. Barbara graduated from the University of New Haven. Barbara received numerous awards, citations, and good conduct services. With SNET she held numerous positions and retired as a computer systems specialist. She was active with the Telephone Pioneers of America-Morris F. Tyler Chap. # 9. She was also active in Hamden community organizations and a life member of several Veteran's organizations. Barbara loved to travel. She vacationed in Europe, West, East and North Africa, Middle East, Egypt, Bermuda, Caribbean Islands, and most states in America. Family and friends may call on Friday, Feb. 10 from 10-11 am and attend a Funeral Service at 11 am in the Dixwell Avenue Congregational United Church of Christ, 217 Dixwell Ave. New Haven, CT. Interment with Military Honors will follow in State Veteran's Cemetery, Middletown. Arrangements in care of BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 WHITNEY AVE. HAMDEN. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be sent to the Dixwell Avenue Congregational United Church of Christ, Missionary Board, or to the charity of your choice.

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  1. A very special sister and an exceptional dear friend. Always affable and dependable to the very bitter end.

  2. O Barbara–I miss you already. You were the perfect friend. We shared soooo many thoughts! Of course we had fun times together also!! You are missed=== love you!!

  3. To the Lanier Family, my heart goes out to you in trying times, I lived on the floor below Barbara for years, could not ask for a better friend, may you rest in peace.

  4. TO: THE LANIER LANIER My deepest sympathy to all of you. I pray that your hearts will understand that God makes no mistakes. As much as we loved Barbara we know that she is resting at peace. I will keep the family in my prayers. As you know the children of the late Mamie Oden have you all in mind. Barbara will always be remember for her contibution to our St. Delight and much joy she gave in coordinating the Lanier Family Reunions held in Washington & Bath, North Carolina. Her smile will always be rememered. Eunice

  5. I worked with Barbara years ago in New Haven. Her stories and laughter will always be remembered. She could bring sunshine to everyone’s day. I feel blessed that our paths have crossed. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  6. It is very rare in life that you find someone so thoughtful, genuine and full of life. That was Barbara. She formed a 40 year bond at SNET with a group of us ladies who visitd her a few days before she passed. we had a wonderful celebration of her life. We brought old pictures, shared memories and oh!! how we laughed. We also said our goodbyes. Barbara always fought for what she believed in. She didn’t take no for an answer. She stood up for injustice. She would laugh with you and also grieve with you. She brought joy to our lives, so much laughter and a friendship beyond words. We will never forget her.

  7. My heart goes out to my extended family. Aunt Barbara as I called her was more than that she was my mom’s (Iva Rae) trusted and dear friend. She always brought a smile and great fashion into my mom’s life. Knowing they are together now gives me great joy. I love you all!!

  8. We would like to express our deepest condolences for the loss of your loved one. We truly regret that we will not be able to be with you for the home going service. She will be truly missed by all. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. We pray that God will be with you doing this time of sorrow. May God continue to bless all of you.

  9. To the Lanier family you have our deepest sympathy and condolences Barbara were very close with my daughter the one they call baby and my name is Bet we had alot of good times you can’t help it with Barbara because that the way she was. May GOD continue to bless you’ll with strength and peace of mind. Mr.& Mrs. Luber Mabery! (Bet Perkins)

  10. To the Lanier Family, May God comfort you, keep you and give you a peace that surpasses all understanding in your time of loss. Richard (Ricky) Oden

  11. As you remember Barbar and share stories with fond memories of how she lived her life and how much she meant to many of us, know that I have deep sorrow for your lost. Barbara was a dear friend of my Mother, sister and me. We worshiped at Dixwell for many years and many years ago prior to our move to NC in 1996. God Bless you and all your family.

  12. May God give you the strength to endure and make it through your hour of bereavement. Sorry I can’t be there with you but I will keep all of you in prayer. I’ve shared some good memories with Barbara and will always remember her. Bill (Donkey) through Eunice

  13. My heartfelt condolences to the entire family and in particular to her brother and my long time friend and associate Jesse. I will always remember Barbara for her warm smile, good humor and vibrant spirit. May she rest in peace!

  14. To the family I would like to express my condolences and deepest sympathy as a pass co-worker at SNET and also a staff memeber of the VAMC of West Haven,Ct. GOD BLESS

  15. TO: OUR FAMILY We the daughters of the late Hattie Slade give our condolences to you. May God give you the strength to endure and know that we love you and are praying for you. Even though we are not there with you are hearts are also heavy. All we have to do is trust and know that God will never leave or for sake us. Let’s keep the memories of Barbara with us and always remember her warm smile. Our prayers will remain faithful for you. Love your cousins, Maggie Slade Knight (Pig) Brooklyn, New York 11212 (718) 498-9505 Catherine Slade Dixon (Goose) St. Albans, New York 11412 (718) 776-6763

  16. We, the ST. DELIGHT CHURCH OF CHRIST, DISCIPLES OF CHRIST BEAUTIFYING AND MEMORIAL ASSOCIATION give the LANIER FAMILY our deepest sympathy. Our prayers are with you. Please know that weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning. During the years of support given by Barbara were greatly appreciated and we will surely miss her. We will continue to keep you all in our Prayers. Mary E. Gray, President Eunice Oden, Secretary/Pledge Secretary Elder Earl Morgan, Pastor Bath, North Carolina 27808

  17. We were at Barbara’s service & I have to say it was just beautiful. The ulogies & remembrances described her to a tee. I have so many good memories of her. Our sincere condolence & sympathy to her family & friends. She will truly be missed. She holds a special place in my heart. God Bless you Barbara. You are in a better place now. Until we meet again… Love you always

  18. Barbara Ellen was more than a first cousin and a very special, close friend….SHE was more like a BIG SISTER, and I loved her dearly. She was energetic, kind, understanding and thoughtful and she naturally reflected happiness and love of living, enjoying her life as she will in her after life. Memories of Barbara Ellen enable me to smile and feel happiness within, knowing she is an angel…….and my guardian angel.

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