Carole Lee DeVore

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March 4, 1939 ~ December 15, 2022

Born in: Santa Barbara, CA
Resided in: Hamden, CT

Carole Lee DeVore, 83, beloved wife and mother, passed away peacefully at Yale-New Haven Hospital on Thursday, December 15, 2022. Carole was a vibrant, creative presence-by turns a ballet dancer with the San Diego Starlight Opera, an exceptional teacher, a dedicated choir member, a moderator at the polls, a spice-driven cook, a dramatic storyteller, and an accomplished actress in community theater. She was a prolific knitter, keeping family, friends, and her community supplied with socks, scarves, and her famous Icelandic sweaters. She worked for 25 years at Yale University, first for the Psychology Department, then the Alumni Fund, and finally as an administrator for the Physics Department, where she helped keep the space-time continuum in balance. Raised in San Diego, she completed her B.A. at San Diego State, and a M.S.-Ed at Southern Connecticut State University.
Above all, Carole delighted in her family. She and her devoted husband of 39 years, Paul Stuehrenberg, were intrepid travelers, visiting over 40 countries and all 50 states, and she relished both time and trips with her two children, Paul and Elizabeth Outka, their spouses, Uma Outka and Trip Pollard, and her grandchildren, Katherine and Thomas Pollard, and Isaac and Juliet Outka, most recently spending time with all of them in Amsterdam in August 2022. She will be profoundly missed.
In addition to her immediate family, she leaves behind a brother, James DeVore (Polly), sister-in-law Sheila Hillberry (Joe), brother-in-law Daniel Stuehrenberg (Judy) and many friends and extended family. Those who went before her include her parents, James and Ada DeVore, her brother Dennis DeVore (Zella), and her sister-in-law, Eva Ness (David).
A memorial celebration of her life will be held Saturday, March 4, at 10 a.m. in Bethesda Lutheran Church, New Haven, CT, where she was a member for over 60 years. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Bethesda’s music series.


Memorial Service: March 4, 2023 10:00 am

Bethesda Lutheran Church
305 Saint Ronan Street
New Haven, CT 06511


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  1. I was so saddened to hear that Carole passed away. I will be thinking of you at this difficult holiday time. Carol Gjellstad

  2. Our sympathies to you in the loss of your wife, Carole. May God be with you and bless you. Larry and Ellen Affield.

  3. Our sympathy and condolences for the loss of such a beautiful and dynamic family member…mother, wife, friend. May you find peace in the knowledge of her love and devotion to you…
    The Ashe family…Bert, Valerie, Jordan, and Garnet.

  4. Paul:
    So very sorry for the loss of your beloved Carole. Sending love and prayers. She was quite an accomplished lady and companion for you. She will be missed.💗

  5. Paul, I was saddened to hear that Carole had passed. Along with all her other qualities she had hospitality down to a fine art- she, and you, made one feel welcomed when in your home and the Bartlett’s were always hasp and grateful recipients of her hospitality.
    Know that I am holding you and the family in my prayers as you grieve and celebrate Carole’s life.

  6. Dear Paul,

    So very sorry for your loss. Carole was such a wonderful presence. I shall miss the all of the Facebook updates of your trips and travels together across the world.

    With love and prayers,

  7. I am vey sorry to hear about the loss of Aunt Carole. She was always so vibrant and fun to be around. I never got to spend as much time as I would have liked with her. I am so grateful for the short visit we had here in San Diego before the pandemic shut down the world. She will be dearly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with her wonderful family, especially my cousins Elizabeth and Paul and my Uncle Paul.

  8. I will miss Carol, my fellow soprano and TLC lunch member at Bethesda Lutheran church. We will think of her every time wear her cozy and warm socks. She was a cozy and warm friend that I was honored to know. Blessing on Carol’s family at this sad time before Christmas.

  9. Dear Paul
    Heartfelt sympathy to you. I’m holding you in the Light and sending wishes of comfort to you and Uma, Isaac and Juliet.

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