Dexter Wheelock Cheney, of 36 Forest Court South, Hamden, died March 27, 2009, of heart failure at his home. He was the husband of Caroline Lane Cheney. A son of the late Dr. Charles B. and Frances W. Cheney, he was born in New Haven on July 26, 1948. He attended Foote School in New Haven, Eaglebrook School in Deerfield, MA, and Taft School in Watertown, CT. He graduated from the University of Connecticut in 1971 with a B.A. in Psychology. He then joined the stock brokerage firm of White, Weld, and after undertaking business studies at New York University, he took a position at the firm's New Haven office. During his long career as a New Haven stock broker, he was associated with various firms in addition to White, Weld, including Tucker Anthony, Paine Webber, and Dean Witter. Dexter Cheney loved the waters of the Caribbean, avidly followed sports, and possessed a wry wit. He was immensely proud of his son, Benjamin Wheelock Cheney, of Wallingford.Mr. Cheney leaves three brothers and a sister: Benjamin Lawton Cheney of Rochester, MN, Charles Clark Cheney of Bethesda, MD, Timothy Wheelock Cheney of Walpole, ME, and Anne Austin Cheney, of Hamden. Funeral Service will be held at Trinity Church on the Green, New Haven on Monday, March 30, 2009 at 11:00 A.M, followed by burial at Evergreen Cemetery. Arrangements are in care of BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave. Hamden.

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  1. Carol, Thank you for your steadfast faithfulness and devotion to my brother -especially during his illnesses and hospitalizations leading up to his transplant – and every minute that has passed since that surgery.

  2. Carol: I just returned from Florida late Friday night and was informed by Charlie Browne on Saturday about Dexter. I am so sorry to here this bad news and wanted to send you my condolences. Anne is not due back from Florida until Thursday but wanted me to pass on her condolences as well. If there is anything I can do please let me know. We will miss Dexter’s smile and booming voice, and again let me know if you need anything.

  3. Caroline and Ben, I was a friend of Dexter at Eaglebrook School, where we shared duties as officers of the class. He was cheerful and enthusiastic and I recall seeing him in the mid 1980’s when I lived and worked in New Haven. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  4. Caroline, Ben, and family: I went to Eaglebrook with Dexter and haven’t seen him since 1964 on graduation day. I didn’t know him well, but he was friendly and a good kid. We voted him handsomest in our class. I’m very saddened about this, but I know you have great memories and those are forever. He will be remembered in our prayers here. Steve Allen, Eaglebrook ’64.

  5. Caroline, I was sorry to read the news and wanted to send you my condolences. If there is anything I can do please let me know. You have taken such good care of him during the challenging times of your relationship. Perhaps, a cruise for you and your daughter would be just the thing.

  6. Dexter was my friend and, for a time, my neighbor. I am grateful for his enduring friendship and for the many memories we, and our families, shared at different stages of our lives. My deepest sympathy to you, Ben–your Dad always talked so proudly of you and truly admired the way you forged your own way in life– and to you, Caroline, for loving and supporting him in good and challenging times, and to all family and friends who were a part of Dexter’s life. Bob

  7. Dexter, I’ve said good bye to you so many times in private moments since Friday. I’ve said goodbye to you at the side of your grave. And now, since you enjoyed your computer, sending and receiving e-mails and exploring the internet more than anyone I know, I am sending a fond farewell via cyber space. I will miss your e-mails, I will miss our conversations, I do and will miss you. You fought the good fight and I am so glad that the fight is over for you as you must have been so very tired. So, being the pesky little sister that I am, I will keep finding ways to say goodbye to you.

  8. I was saddened to hear of Dexter’s death. Please accept my sympathy for your sad loss. Dexter was charming, well-mannered, witty, earnest and a genuinely kind man. His wonderful smile and resonant voice will surely be missed by all who loved him. Thinking of you and wishing you strength in the days ahead.

  9. I was so sorry to hear of Dexter’s passing. He was a good friend back at Eaglebrook, as he was to so many people, and we re-connected in the early 70’s when I lived in New Haven. He was always my idea of a really nice guy, honest and decent, modest, with a great sense of humor, a pleasure be with. A few years back my foster son Robert and I stayed overnight with Dexter and Carol on the way to Eaglebrook. After Carol crashed, we talked five hours more, about everything under the sun. As we were finally calling it a night, he showed me Ben’s picture, and was overcome with emotion mid-sentence. Words weren’t necessary, though, his pride was transcendent. We both just sort of laughed for an instant, and then it was back to practicalities. I had it in mind to call him this week, and I was looking forward to seeing him this summer. Dexter was well-loved by many friends. My heart is with you, John C.

  10. I was so terribly saddened to read about Dexter. We were friends way, way back and I always thought so highly of him. He was a great guy. My thoughts and deepest sympathy to the family. Best regards, Jo-Ann Sykes

  11. It has been years since I worked with Dexter but I clearly remember his cheerful and helpful manner when I was working in the back office at White Weld and Tucker Anthony. I recently lost my husband and know it is difficult and my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

  12. My dear thoughtful friends and family, Do not weep for me for my sprit is free to soar. I am in the wind,the sun and the sea. Think of me when you see a hawk circling,a beautiful butterfly kiss a fragrant bloom. The warm beach sand, the sun on your face and the endless tides washing away your sadness.The stars and moon will shine down on you forever and know that I am there. I am free of my sick body and trembing hands. Do not weep for me for I will live forever for I am the master of my fate and the captain of my soul. You will aways be with me, my friends and family who loved me, Forever, Dexter

  13. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Caroline. if there is anything I can do to help you along this very sad road, please don’t hesitate to ask, and I will do everything in my power to help you. Love Chris

  14. To the Cheney family, I was a classmate of Dexter’s at Eaglebrook and shared many great times with him in those years. I had hoped to see him this year at our reunion. Sadly, this will not happen. My prayers and condolences to the entire Cheney family. Bill Brock

  15. I am so sorry to hear that Dexter died. I knew him best several years ago. He was bright, vibrant, funny and had a caring compassion he shared with others. My heart and prayers go out to his friends and family.

  16. For no particular reason, I was reminiscing about my childhood in New Haven this afternoon, and on a whim I decided to search for Dexter online. To my great surprise and deep sadness, I found his obituary. I have not seen nor spoken to Dexter since our grade school days at Foote School. He was my best friend there, and I have so many happy memories of the times and adventures we shared over those years. We were both of the same high-spirited and occasionally mischievous nature, and I have laughed to myself periodically over the years as I remembered one youthful bit of fun or another. I would occasionally accompany the Cheney family to their farm in Litchfield, CT, where Dexter and I had great times. We’d sneak cigarettes late at night, and stay up talking until the wee hours. Dexter was a great guy, popular and charming even in those early years. I admired him in many ways. I want to extend my heartfelt condolences to the Cheney’s and Dexter’s family. I will always remember him.

  17. For no particular reason, I was reminiscing about my childhood in New Haven this afternoon, and on a whim I decided to search for Dexter online. To my great surprise and deep sadness, I found his obituary. I have not seen nor spoken to Dexter since our grade school days at Foote School. He was my best friend there, and I have so many happy memories of the times and adventures we shared over those years. We were both of the same high-spirited and occasionally mischievous nature, and I have laughed to myself periodically over the years as I remembered one youthful bit of fun or another. I would occasionally accompany the Cheney family to their farm in Litchfield, CT, where Dexter and I had great times. We’d sneak cigarettes late at night, and stay up talking until the wee hours. Dexter was a great guy, popular and charming even in those early years. I admired him in many ways. I want to extend my heartfelt condolences to the Cheney’s and Dexter’s family. I will always remember him.

  18. Your families continue to stay in our memories and prayers. Use this as a time to strengthen your faith in our heavenly father by means of prayer-Psalms 65:2

  19. Carol, Thank you for your steadfast faithfulness and devotion to my brother -especially during his illnesses and hospitalizations leading up to his transplant – and every minute that has passed since that surgery.

  20. Carol: I just returned from Florida late Friday night and was informed by Charlie Browne on Saturday about Dexter. I am so sorry to here this bad news and wanted to send you my condolences. Anne is not due back from Florida until Thursday but wanted me to pass on her condolences as well. If there is anything I can do please let me know. We will miss Dexter’s smile and booming voice, and again let me know if you need anything.

  21. Caroline, I was sorry to read the news and wanted to send you my condolences. If there is anything I can do please let me know. You have taken such good care of him during the challenging times of your relationship. Perhaps, a cruise for you and your daughter would be just the thing.

  22. Dexter, I’ve said good bye to you so many times in private moments since Friday. I’ve said goodbye to you at the side of your grave. And now, since you enjoyed your computer, sending and receiving e-mails and exploring the internet more than anyone I know, I am sending a fond farewell via cyber space. I will miss your e-mails, I will miss our conversations, I do and will miss you. You fought the good fight and I am so glad that the fight is over for you as you must have been so very tired. So, being the pesky little sister that I am, I will keep finding ways to say goodbye to you.

  23. In the Summer of 1964, my parents took my sister Anne and me to Europe. We cruised to Europe on The Queen Mary. I remember the first day on ship meeting two wonderful guys named Dexter Cheney and Randy ? They had just graduated from high school and their graduation gift was the cruise on The Queen Mary and they were going to bicycly through several countries. My sister Anne, Dexter and Randy hung out for the next five days on the ship. I was younger than they, but have always remembered how much my parents thought of these two really great guys. We parted ways in South Hampton and did not keep in touch. On a whim one day, do not know why,…….I googled Dexter Cheney and learned of his early demise. Although my memory is one of a 16 year old Dexter,……I recognized him immediately when I saw his photo. I was very saddened to read his obituary. He was fun loving and full of life! Very sad.

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