Eileen Elizabeth Healy DeMayo, 93, of East Haven, passed away at CT Hospice on November 26, 2019 after a short illness. She was born on October 30, 1926 in Teaneck, NJ to the late John and Elizabeth Garvin Healy. Eileen served for years on the Board of the Hagaman Memorial Library in East Haven and also served on the CT state library board. She was very active in the East Haven community, receiving an award for community service from the town. She was also involved in the League of Women Voters. When Eileen wasn't taking care of her family or volunteering, she enjoyed crossword puzzles, mystery novels, British TV shows, and opera. Eileen was predeceased by her husband, the Honorable Anthony V. DeMayo, whom she married in 1951. She leaves her daughters and sons-in-law, Elizabeth Aida DeMayo and Tim Koelle of New York and Catherine Eileen DeMayo and Ian McGregor of Sydney, Australia; her grandchildren, Sophia and Anthony DeMayo Schwab and Marilena and Andrew McGregor DeMayo; and her nephews, Brent and John Healy and their children. Friends are invited to visit with her family at BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden on Tuesday, December 3rd from 4:00 to 7:00 p.m. Her Funeral Service will be celebrated in the funeral home on Wednesday morning at 10:00 a.m., followed by her burial in St. Lawrence Cemetery. Contributions in Eileen's memory may be sent to the Hagaman Memorial Library, 227 Main St., East Haven, CT 06512.

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  1. Many memories of dinners and lively conversation at the house of Aunt Eileen and Uncle Nat and also of fun times swimming in their pool. Aunt Eileen was such a gracious hostess and we were always so impressed at how she was able to cook a large meal for our family while maintaining such an impeccably clean, organized kitchen. She was an incredibly smart, generous, loving, absolutely lovely woman, and she will be missed by many. Our condolences and love to all her family as Aunt Eileen is grieved for, remembered, and her life is celebrated. – Brent Healy, Nicole (nee Healy) Sundve, Jeremy Healy, and Karen Healy

  2. When I first started at the library, Eileen DeMayo was one of the first people I saw. As the years went on, I got to know her and Judge DeMayo. I would sometimes set the room up on Saturdays for when he did the stamp club at the library. Mrs. DeMayo always was in the library and would stop to talk to us at the main desk. She was always so nice and very generous, and as library board chair, her leadership made the library a special place. Her and Judge DeMayo were both were very welcoming and always helpful. The DeMayo Room at the library is a testament to their generosity and kindness and because of her leadership and advocacy, the library continues to help people just as she always helped others. I wish to express my sincere condolences to the DeMayo family. She will be truly missed.

  3. My sincere condolences to the family. I had the pleasure to work along side Mrs. DeMayo for two years on the Hagaman Memorial Library Board of Trustees. Her charisma and smile, intelligence and quick wit was refreshing. I saw her many times at the library speaking with patrons and staff. Many remember the wonderful music programming that she brought to East Haven. Mr. & Mrs. DeMayo’s legacy will live on via philanthropy they shared, especially in the construction of the multi-purpose library building addition. A room with a beautiful purpose, building community through education and the arts. We will miss you dearly. Thank you for being a great leader, role model to me and women in town. Lorena Venegas

  4. The New Haven Philatelic Society sends sincere condolences to the family. Judge DeMayo was a long time member of the Society and was lovingly supported by his wife of many years. She represents the passing of a generation, and we are saddened by her loss. She will be remembered by members of the Society long into the future.

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