On Wednesday, August 28, 2019, Eileen M. Smith Butler passed away peacefully at her home in Hamden, at the age of 90, while surrounded by loved ones. Born on December 28, 1928 in New Haven to the late Matthew 'Poppy' and Marie 'Nanny' Smith. Eileen was the youngest of four siblings, all of whom predeceased her; Anne Hertz, Kathy Keyes, and Mary Tucker. She was the mother of James (Lori Beaudoin) Butler, Mary (Stephen) Guzowski, Doreen Butler, Matthew (Rose) Butler, and the late Ruth (Philip) Goodloe. Also survived by six grandchildren, Stephanie Giacco, Melissa Marino, Brandon, Nicholas, Justin, and Aiden Butler; and one great-grandson, Joseph Giacco. Eileen received her high school diploma from the former New Haven Commercial High School on June 11, 1946 and held various clerical positions at banking and insurance institutions, but was best known for being 'Mimi' - an amazing mother, grandmother, homemaker, and child of God. Mimi's greatest passion was her love for God and her family. She was an incredibly compassionate human being who always put the needs and interests of others before her own. Known also for her quick wit and humor, Mimi was a big fan of the New York Yankees, but only when they 'behaved.' A gathering of family and friends will take place on Thursday, September 5th from 8:00 to 9:30 a.m. at BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave, Hamden. A Memorial Mass will be celebrated at 10 a.m. in Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, 2819 Whitney Ave., followed by her interment in All Saints Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in memory of Eileen Butler to EWTN Global Catholic Network, 5817 Old Leeds Road, Irondale, AL 35210 or by telephone at 1-800-447-3986.

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  1. Laskowski Family
    We were very saddened to learn of the loss of your mother, Matthew. Our prayers are with you and your family at this time. A beautiful soul is now truly at peace. God bless all of you.

  2. Mom, you were, and will continue to be for all time, a true role model. Never a harsh word spoken, never a sinful thought. Just pure kindness, compassion, and love for all who crossed your path. .Too pure for this world,. I would often say to people – and now you are without question at peace and with The Lord. ‘Til we meet again… Love you.

  3. Sharing in your sorrow with love and friendship. …As you celebrate your moms life . She is free . Lisa purificato

  4. You were my aunt, my friend, my confidante, my other mother, and my phone buddy. Jim and I will treasure our cherished memories of our times together forever. May you now rest in peace with the Lord. We love you forever. Kathy and Jim xo

  5. .Did you ever know you are my hero. You’re everything I want to be. I can fly higher than an eagle – you are the wind beneath my wings.. Love you Mommy

  6. Thank you for staying with me when Jimmy died. Thank you for being mommy’s best friend and partner in crime. Remember: -Don’t tell the kids!- ( all the nutty things you two did!) This year has been one of the best ever because we hung out every week and even more the last few weeks.. Remember all our lunches at just about everywhere in Hamden and the laughs we had about mommy , her hats, and her dates! Love you always and forever! Thank you for your love! Thank you for my cousins! Much love from Colleen, Bilal, Jimmy and Danny you will remain in our hearts forever. Please forgive typos.

  7. Eileen was one of the sweetest, kindest,ladies I have known. Always a smile even when times were hard for her. Her faith truly sustained her.
    She will be missed by the parishioners at Christ the Bread of Life Parish.
    Rest in peace Eileen.
    Vivian Orie

  8. Matt and family, I was blessed to have had your mother in my life. She was forever a gentle and caring lady who treated everyone with a kind caring word. Her prayers were felt as we explored our youth, and her messages to me during my military service were always inspiring and sincere. I am blessed as well to have always been so welcomed by her on my visits home, she never failed to remind me that I was loved. She has an amazing legacy in her children and grandchildren, god bless you and keep you all in that glow she created. Love Mark, Beth, & Tori Sette

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