Eleanor M. O'Connor

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Eleanor Marie (Hastings) O’Connor, 93, passed away peacefully at home in Hamden Friday, July 7, 2017 after a brief illness, surrounded by her loving family. Eleanor was predeceased by her beloved husband, Edward, who died in 2004. She was born on April 13, 1924 in Clinton, MA, a daughter of John and Eva (Rouleau) Hastings. Eleanor lived in Clinton until age six, when her family moved to Milford, MA before settling in Natick, MA, where she would meet her future husband when both were in their teens. Eleanor graduated from Natick High School in 1941, then worked at the Natick Rationing Board during World War II and later as an assistant for the town’s popular family practitioner, Dr. Harold Cohen. Edward matriculated at Boston College, before interrupting his studies to enlist in the Army Air Corps. They married in 1947 and Ed returned to BC, graduating in 1950, just a few months after their first child, Susan, was born. The young family moved from the Boston area to Pennsauken, N.J. as Ed began his career with the Federal Bureau of Investigation. When he was later transferred to the FBI’s Field Office in Washington, D.C., they lived in Cheverly and Wheaton, MD. The couple and their growing family moved to Connecticut in 1963, purchasing a home in the Spring Glen neighborhood of Hamden, where Eleanor would live the rest of her life among her family and many dear friends. As a devout Catholic, Eleanor was a communicant at St. Rita Church in Hamden for more than a half-century. She was active at St. Rita School and the parish community, including volunteering in the Infant Room of St. Rita Daycare after Ed’s death. She loved her time with the High Lane Club and the Sleeping Giant Women’s Golf Association, and was a charter member of the “Vermont Club,” a group of women friends who gathered weekly to enjoy coffee, pastries, and most of all, one another’s company. As her children passed through St. Rita School and the Hamden school system, their young pals became their mother’s friends as well, and they would often visit Eleanor as they grew into adulthood and raised their own families. In addition to Susan (William Forte), Eleanor is survived by six other children: Michael (Jacqueline) of Hull, MA, Anne Soybel (Laurence) of Stafford, VA, Ellen of Hamden, Dennis (Sharon) of Hamden, John (Donna) of Stratford, and Timothy (Melissa) of North Madison. She was predeceased by a daughter, Patricia Ann, in 1956. Eleanor was also predeceased by her brother, Paul Hastings and her sister, Natalie (Hastings) Hall. Grandchildren include Geoffrey and Michael (Erin) Soybel; Kevin, Cameron, and Cassidy O’Connor; and Caroline and Sydney O’Connor. Eleanor was predeceased by granddaughter Krisanne (Forte) Barbara in 2007. She is also survived by great-grandson Andrew Barbara and grandson-in-law Luciano Barbara. Eleanor’s funeral services will be held on Tuesday, July 11, 2017 at 9:00 AM at Beecher & Bennett Funeral Home, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 10:00 AM in St. Rita Church, 1620 Whitney Ave., Hamden. Interment next to her husband to take place in St. Patrick’s Cemetery, Natick, MA at 2:00 PM. Relatives and friends are invited to visit with Eleanor’s family on Monday, July 10 from 5:00-8:00 PM in the funeral home.

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  1. Dear Mike and family, loved visiting your home as a kid and beyond, and a big reason was your Moms cheery warmth and regard for us. God bless her and all of you.

  2. Dear Ellen I was saddened by the news of your mother’s passing. You and your family are in my prayers wishing you comfort and peace during this time of sorrow.My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

  3. Dear Ellen–My Deepest Sympathy in the passing of your mom, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort and peace in the wonderful memories you hold in your heart.

  4. Dear O’Connor Family, I am saddened to read of the passing of your beloved mother, Eleanor. She was the embodiment of kindness and a true lady who will be missed by all who knew her. I came to know her as a faithful volunteer for St. Rita Elderly Ministry. She quickly became a lovely friend who never hesitated to help anyone in need. Please know you are in my prayers at this difficult time.

  5. Tim and family, so sorry to hear about your mothers passing. Your mother and father made growing up in Spring Glen very special.

  6. To all the O’Connor Family I am so sorry to hear about your Mom’s death. It has been a long time since I have seen most of you but at times caught up with your Mom and Ellen at Glenwood when visiting home. Your Mom was always so joyful! Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers at this time.

  7. To all the O’Connor Family We were saddened about the death of your mother.I will miss stopping by and visiting with her on the front porch.Your mother was a wonderful lady and will be missed.

  8. To the whole O’Connor family, I am so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. When I read her obituary, I could only see that beautiful Irish smile and spirit and my heart felt warm. Our moms are part of that Sping Glen, St Rita generation that we are blessed to be rooted in…faithful, sweet yet strong, happy and loving. May she rest in peace, condolences to all. Love, Susan (Bassermann) Criscuolo.

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