Francis J. (Frank) Whalen Francis J. Whalen, 77, of Hamden, CT, died Saturday after a long illness. He died at home surrounded by family and friends. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth (Betty) Parmelee Whalen, they celebrated fifty years of marriage Febuary 19, he is also survived by 3 daughters, Beverly Whalen Davidson (Robert) of Glastonbury, Laura Whalen Wrinn (Michael) of Norwalk, CT, Kathryn Regina Whalen of Hamden, CT and 1 son, Matthew W. Whalen (Laurie) of Hamden, CT; a brother, Patrick J. Whalen (Shirley) of Cheshire, CT, a sister, Mary Jane Whalen Simonello (Roger) of Tucson, AZ and nine grandchildren, Corey and Shaun Wrinn of Norwalk, CT, Erika and Bethany Potenziani of Hamden, Jake and Emily Whalen of Hamden, Clayton and Randy Davidson of Ellington, CT and Ashley Davidson Hughson of New Jersey. Born in New Haven, January 25, 1928, he was the son of the late Patrick and Regina Whalen of Ansonia, CT. He was employed at the New Haven Register for 31 years, retireing in 1981 as the Sunday Editor. He continued his writing after his retirement with various publications and corporations. He served as Assistant to Mayor Peter Villano in Hamden during the 80's. He spent the remaining years freelance writing and enjoying his grandchildren and the Boston Red Sox. Mr. Whalen was a 1945 graduate of Ansonia High School and received a degree in Journalism from Quinnipiac College in Hamden. He served in the Marine Corps during WWII and the Korean Conflict with the intelligence unit, he received an honorable discharge as a sergant. During his time with the New Haven Register he was Police and Fire Reporter, City Editor and Sunday Editor. He served as toastmaster for numerous charitble events in and around New Haven. He was a member of the Pyramid Club, The New Haven Boys Club, the Marine Corps League and the North End Boys, he was an honorary member of the Bluejay Drivers Surface club, the Newhallville-Shelton Ends Association and the County Detectives Association. He served as a coach and commissioner in Hamden Fathers Baseball. He received numerous awards, citations and commendations during his lifetime. He was named ''Man of the Year'' by the New Haven Register Fresh Air Fund, his dedication to the Fresh Air fund was a ''personal campaign'' according to former New Haven mayor Dick Lee in 1979. He organized and oversaw the annual benefit ''Drum Corps Show'' in the 60's and 70's. The Drum Corps shows featured the Connecticut Hurricanes with all proceeds going to the Fresh Air Fund, which made it possible for inner city children to attend summer camps. Mr. Whalen recived the prestigious ''Gold Ring'' award from the New Haven Boys Club in 1979. According to the Boys Club he received this award due to his efforts in ''promoting, conducting, organizing or assisting in programs beneficial to the youth of greater New Haven. During the 1960's he worked closely with Chales (Charlie) McQueeny, then managing editor of the New Haven Register. After Mr. McQueeny's retirement in 1973, Mr. Whalen assumed the responsibilities for directing many of the Fresh Air Funds Projects, all the time instilling the importance of charitable work in his own children by using them as volunteers at various events. His other accomplishments are too numerous to mention, but he gave of himself tirelessly to the community. Mr. Whalen was a lifelong avid, often rabid fan of the Boston Red Sox. His dedication to the team was above reproach, according to an article published in the New Haven Register in 1955, the only thing more important to him was his wife, this may or may not have changed after the birth of his children. Many of his grandchildren, conducting scientific research or working on a school project, asked him about all the things he had seen in his life. His response was not always the same, man on the moon, JFK, television, all answers which varied from time to time. The question of what he has not seen was standard and never changed, The Red Sox winning a World Series. After he was diagnosed with Progressive Supernuclear Palsy in 2003, he swore in a conversation with his son that he would stay alive until the Red Sox won a World Series. True to his form and dedication to his favorite baseball team he did just that. The night the Red Sox won the World Series in 2004, he was home with his wife, as ill as he felt, he stayed awake to see the final out. The night he passed away he again was true to his form and his dedication to his family, he stayed long enough for all of his family to be by his side and say goodbye, one last selfless act by a truely selfless man. Semper Fi! Funeral from BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 WHITNEY AVE., HAMDEN, Wed., March 16th at 9:45 AM. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated in St. Rita Church, Hamden at 10:30 AM. Friends may call Tues. from 4-8 PM. Interment will be in Pine Grove Cemetery, Ansonia. Memorial Contributions may be sent to Hospice Home Care, 110 Barnes Rd., Wallingford, CT 06492, or to the New Haven Register Fresh Air Fund, in care of the New Haven Register or St. Rita Church, 1620 Whitney Ave., Hamden, CT 06517.

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  1. Although we did not know this fine gentleman, from what Jen has told us and from reading about him, we have witnessed how he he has instilled many of his admirable qualities in his wonderful grandson, Corey, not the least of which is their shared pride in and passion for the Red Sox. Please accept our very deepest condolescences for your loss. .Those who touch the lives of others, live on forever.. Sharon & Ken Doughty

  2. Dear Betty, Bev, Laur, Kath and Matt, You are all in my prayers. Fran was a fine man who was blessed with a kind and loving family. And my life has been enriched to know you all. I will keep you in my thoughts and in my heart always.

  3. Dear Betty, The committe of Ansonia High School, Class of 1950 want to send you our sincere condolences in the loss of your dear husband Francis. Please know that you are in our thoughts & prayers during this most difficult time. Barbara Ryan Hayes Peggy Dowling Porcu Robert Wanagill & wife Pat Frank Loda AHS Class of 1950

  4. Dear Bev, Betty, and all the Whalens, What a great man Mr. Whalen was, and an equally great legacy he leaves behind through his family. I always admired how close your family was, how much you enjoyed each others\’ company. It was a privilege to know him. He will be greatly missed!

  5. Dear Laura, While I don\’t see you and Mike that often, please know that I am thinking of you and your family during this time of loss. From reading the wonderful write-up on your Dad, he sure had a great life and loving family. What more can any of us wish for. My love to you and Mike and your family, Danny Lyons

  6. Dear Matt & Beverly, I send to both of you my sincere condolences for the loss that you have suffered at this time. I endured this same moment years ago with the passing of my father in September of 1981. My heart is with the both of you. Take care, your friend Lorenzo.

  7. Dear Mrs. Wrinn We are so sorry for your loss but your dad was truly blessed with a wonderful daughter. Our prayers are with you and your family. Love, The Maher Family – Ted,Patty,Maggie,Cristin and especially Tommy

  8. Frank – Often tnink of the days we patrolled the police beat together, you for the Register and me for the Herald. And thanks to your recommendation, I was offered the Clarion colunmn after Bill Ahern retired. You were a great guy and a good newspaperman. Also a fine humanitarian. Condolences to Betty and the children. God bless! Jack Quinn

  9. Frank – Sorry to learn of your loss. Joe and I will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

  10. Frank raised a wonderful family. May you all find comfort in knowing that he is in God\’s loving and gentle care.

  11. I had the great pleasure of meeting and working with Frank when I worked for the Register in the late 60\’s and early 70\’s. He was on the city desk with Bill Higgins and Tommy Hubbard at the time and Charlie (Car 5) McQueeney was just a look away. I was just a copy boy who later moved onto the police and fire beats before joining the police department. I still remember his patience, his kindness and his humor – especially his humor! He truly was \’one of the good guys\’. My deepest condolences to you all.

  12. I will always treasure the fond memories I have of cousin Fran. My prayers are with you all

  13. I would like to say thank you to all who came to my Uncle Fran\’s wake and/or funeral. Even though I did not know many of you,it was very comforting feeling to know how many lives my uncle touched. He was a very kind and gentle man with one hell of a sense of humor. You will be dearly missed Uncle Fran and GO RED SOX

  14. Laura, Mike and family, We were so upset to hear about the passing of your dad. His obituary is a testament of a remarkable man. He leaves behind a wonderful loving family that he was incredible proud of. We know all too well the sorrow your experiencing and have you in our thoughts and prayers. Love, Lori,Jim,Erica,jimmy and Elyse

  15. Matt, Sorry to hear of the loss of your father. You and your family will be in our prayers.

  16. Mrs. Whalen, Bev, Laura, Kathy, Matt and all your families, Very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband and father. I remeber fondly how much he loved the Redsox, listening to the games on the radio while sitting at the kitchen table. I\’m glad he was able to see them win the World Series. I have many wonderful memories of times spent with your family and know that your memories will keep your husband and dad with you in your heart always. Deepest Condolences, Karen, Phil, Philip & Nicholas Madonna (formerly Karen Szombathy)

  17. My deepest sympathies to Frank\’s family. I worked at the newspapers in the 70\’s and early 80\’s. I remember Frank as one of the editorial department\’s nice guys.

  18. My Deepest sympathy goes out to you and your families Betty at this time of great lose. My prayers are with you and yours. Timothy

  19. Our deepest sympathy on the passing of your dad. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  20. So sorry to hear of your great loss, but what a legacy he has left behind. I will keep your family in my prayers

  21. Thank you to all who attended the wake or funeral, sent cards, food, emails, or telephoned. This was a very difficult time for our family and all the love and support is greatly appreciated. My Dad was a wonderful man, and that is evident in all the support we have recieved. My father touched the lives of people he knew and people he didn\’t, it made no difference to him, he just wanted to help. Thank you again for all the support. Matt Whalen

  22. Thanks for sending this, all of you. Neat to see of picture of him, \’cause I never met him — only you all!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you — it is a tough time, but you know he has gone to a wonderful reward. Our mutual friend (WJS) keeps telling me what a dynamo he was in better days — wish I\’d known him. Love to you all!!!!!!!!

  23. To the entire Whalen Family, My deepest sympathy goes out to you in this time. I worked with Matt and although I have never met Mr. Whalen his obituary told me so much I feel like I have known him for ages. I will cheer a little bit louder for the red sox this season. I will keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers.

  24. We did not know Mr. Whalen, we know his daughter, Laura Wrinn. We know he had to be a very special person to have such a remarkable daughter. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. Thank you.

  25. What a beautiful obituary and what a wonderful man! My condolences to Betty, Beverly, Laura, Kathy, Matt and the rest of the family.

  26. When I first met your Dad he was in the Montowese Rehab Center and couldn\’t really speak. The more I have learned about Fran, the more I wish that I could have met him before his disease had set in. But the truly great thing about your father was that even without his ability to speak, he still touched my heart and my life. His eyes, which I can still look at pictures of him and see it, have such a welcoming kindness in them that I can see why so many love him. I am so thankful that I got to know this extraordinary man. I do, and will, miss him greatly.

  27. With deepest sympathy to the family. While I never had the pleasure of meeting Mr, Whalen, knowing his children, he was a good person.

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