Gary J. Uscilla

gary uscilla

May 13, 1961 ~ March 26, 2022

Born in: New Haven, CT
Resided in: Cheshire, CT

Gary Joseph Uscilla, 60, of Cheshire, loving husband of Lourdes Chaparro Uscilla, unexpectedly passed away at home on March 26, 2022. He was born in New Haven on May 13, 1961, a son of Mariann Castellani and the late Paul Uscilla. Besides his mother Mariann and her partner Jennifer Minori, Gary is survived by his children, Alexander Frenkel and Sara and Matthew Trowbridge; and siblings, Michael Uscilla and his wife Charlotte, Carolyn Ewers and her husband Christopher, Deborah Grillo, and Sean and Paula Uscilla. He is also survived by his nephews, Jack and Eddie Uscilla. After graduating from North Haven High School, Gary went on to work at AT&T for 36 years until his retirement, and was a long-time member of the Wolcott Land Owners Association.
A Memorial Mass celebrating Gary’s life will be held on Saturday, April 2nd at 11:00 a.m. in St. Faustina Parish-St. Stanislaus Church, 82 Akron St., Meriden. Friends and family are invited to meet directly at church. Interment will be privately held at the convenience of his family. The family asks that any flowers be sent to Beecher & Bennett-Flatow Funeral Home, 48 Cook Ave., Meriden.


Memorial Mass: April 2, 2022 11:00 am

St. Stanislaus
82 Akron Street
Meriden, CT 06450

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  1. Lourdes and family, I don’t even have the right words. Gary was such a good person and a wonderful friend to me. Even though it was so many years ago, I have still held him in my heart all these years. I fondly remember me and him in his Cutlass…It was snowing and he started doing donuts in the St. Therese parking lot…and I would start screaming so he would stop…then I would say…”Do it again!”. That is just one of the many fond memories I have. I hope that you can take comfort in the many memories you shared with him. He was just a really great guy and I am so sorry.

  2. I’m so very sad and sorry for your loss, May you find peace in your memories.

    This song is ours, forever etched in my heart, rest in peace my friend

    So, so you think you can tell
    Heaven from hell?
    Blue skies from pain?
    Can you tell a green field
    From a cold steel rail?
    A smile from a veil?
    Do you think you can tell?
    Did they get you to trade
    Your heroes for ghosts?
    Hot ashes for trees?
    Hot air for a cool breeze?
    Cold comfort for change?
    Did you exchange
    A walk-on part in the war
    For a leading role in a cage?
    How I wish, how I wish you were here
    We’re just two lost souls
    Swimming in a fish bowl
    Year after year
    Running over the same old ground
    What have we found?
    The same old fears
    Wish you were here

  3. I worked with Gary back in the early 80’s when it was SNET. We worked directory assistance together. My prayers are with his family and friends. He was a wonderful man and I’m sure a good father. He will be missed by all who knew him. RIP Gary. ♥️

  4. Lourdes, I am so very sorry. Gary was such a great guy who I enjoyed working with over the years. May you find comfort in knowing what a good person he was, always smiling and ready to help anyone. 💔

  5. So sorry lu for your loss. I was Gary’s God father, Sorry we didn’t keep in touch. Prayers to you and family.

  6. Gary dear Gary! While years have passed the good times and memories are vivid. You made me feel welcome when I moved into the neighborhood. Kind funny gentle…much love friend.

  7. Lourdes & Family: I worked first many years ago, maybe 20? with Gary when he was a Translations tech, I think he may have been either in Norwalk or Bridgeport at the time & I was in Meriden on the phone. He was so helpful and patient & always very nice to me. In Meriden, when I retired in 2017, he was one of the people I saw as I left the parking lot for the last time. I am in shock as he is too young, gone too soon. I can’t even think of what to say except I am so very very sorry for your loss. I do know there is another Angel in Heaven watching over all of you.

  8. Here’s to all the fun times we had growing up on Carlisle Street, in the North Haven Little League, at Paradise Country Club and elsewhere. RIP, cousin.

  9. Dear Lourdes, Marianne and family,
    I am so very sorry to hear of Gary’s passing. My deepest sympathy to all of you at this very difficult time. I have many fond memories of Gary while at SNET/AT&T. What a gentle soul.
    May Gary Rest In Peace,
    Again my sincere sympathy,
    Jane Brown

  10. Lourdes and family I am so deeply saddened for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine, May the memories comfort you in these difficult moments. In my thoughts and prayers!

  11. So sad to read this news tonight. Lourdes, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that your memories of your happy times together brings you a measure of comfort. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

    ❤️Bunny Grenfell

  12. I grew up with Gary on Juniper Drive in North Haven, Conn. We had a great time growing up together. Yard baseball and football. Great times on the CB talking to the kids we were with in school all day. I brought him with me snow plowing a couple years. Even got him to join the Montowese Volunteer Fire Dept, Engine 2 (in those days). We lost contact after I graduated in 1978. He was a good kid/guy you wanted to hang with. Sorry for the disconnect, Rest In Peace.

  13. I remember Gary from school and SNET/AT&T. He was such a good guy. Taken much too soon. I am very sorry for your loss

  14. I worked with Gary back in SNET/AT&T. Always an excellent person to work with and a great person to know. My sympathy to his family as he will surely be missed. On to new adventures, old friend.

  15. We are so so sorry to hear of Garys passing . Our sincere condolences to his family. The Hallock family

  16. Loved Gary. Worked with him at the phone company for many years. I would sit down, log in, and go to his desk to BS. Did that for for so many years. Sweetheart of a guy. I love you Gary.

  17. Lourdes, I simply have no words. I am so sorry to hear this. Love and prayers to you and your family.

  18. Lourdes and family I am so sorry for your loss hard to put into words . Gary was a great man always had a smile when I saw him at Medway.

  19. Lourdes and family. I’m so very sorry to hear of Gary’s passing. Many good memories of Gary at SNET – Meriden

  20. Lou, I have just heard about Gary, I am truly sorry for this loss. Gary was a truly great man. I will never forget the memories of our get togethers and his kindness towards me. He will truly be missed by you and your family. He is home now with the good Lord, but he will not be far from you and loved ones. May Gary rest in peace and may the Lord give you strength during this difficult time.

  21. Lourdes, I’m so sorry to hear this news. I wish you and your family peace and comfort in memories of him.


  22. Dear Lou, I am so very sorry to hear about Gary. We spent a number of years sitting side by side, had a great friendship. Sorry we lost touch. Thoughts and prayers with you and the family.
    Louise Giallongo

  23. Gone way to soon. Heaven gained another angel to watch over the family.
    A sweet, kind man may he RIP. Sorry for
    Your loss. Prayers for all.

  24. Titi Lou Sara and Matt were all so sorry for the Loss of Uncle Gary. I know it’s a Hard Time for you All. Uncle Gary was an awesome person always understood me and my struggles even when no one else did and I really appreciated that from him. He is with Gram now and in a better place I’ll always cherish those memories with all of you and am praying for you all 💯❤️🙏🏼

  25. Lu and family, the passing of Gary was such a shock for all. It was a pleasure to work with Gary, A kinder man you couldn’t find.
    Please accept all the beautiful thoughts and prayers. May they comfort you and the fond memories get you past this difficult time.
    God bless all of you

  26. I met Gary many years ago when we were both operators on orange street New Haven .Gary was a special person he will be missed .. when he became my husband we were off to a great start too bad we never finished .. RIP Gary ..

  27. Luli,
    I am sadden to hear the news of your husband Gary. I am wishing you peace to bring you comfort, courage for the up coming days ahead. And loving memories to forever hold in your heart. My sincere condolences are with you and your family.

    Darlene Gonzalez Hunter

  28. Gary-you are my love, my soulmate and my friend. My heart is truly broken but I know we will be together again. Thank you for 26 beautiful years. Thank you for being a terrific dad to Sara and Matthew. Their hearts are shattered but they will forever keep you in their hearts as will I. Until we meet again. Love you bunches and forever.

  29. Gary, when you married my sister I truly gained a brother. You were one of the nicest and kindest guys I ever met. You committed your life to your wife and your kids and it was a beautiful thing to see. My mom was fond of saying how much you loved your wife and kids and how much she cared about you. I am broken hearted by the loss of the brother that life gave me.

  30. Lourdes and family – My sincerest sympathy and prayers. Gary was such a kind and gentle soul.

  31. Dear Lu and family,
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Gary was a great guy and I have many fond memories of him from our years working together at SNET/AT&T. May the love you shared give you comfort and strength.

  32. Rest in peace, my friend. You have left us way too soon. I will cherish the memories I have of you hanging out at Roller Haven, drinking Molson Ale, taking rides in the 442, going to your house & partying at Poor Richard’s Pub. I am going to miss you. See you on the other side.

  33. Gary,

    You were a natural! Always genuine, welcoming and thick-or-thin, family and friends know you were on their side.
    I could never pass up when you offered me some awesome single batch coffee which came in handy when fixing yer computer. I know this was more a personal sharing thing as the computer didn’t break all the time and when you guys hosted a party/gathering, the Maxwell House would be used for everyone else. Sorry yer secret is out.
    Seeing how Pongo and Jordan would vie for your attention and as you know, Boxers are a good judge of people.
    You will not be forgotten because you created Great Memories!

    Godspeed Uncle Gary! Godspeed!

  34. Hilda Austin, it was a pleasure knowing and working with Gary in Meriden. He was such an easy going guy and will truly be missed! My condolences to his family!

  35. Lourdes, it a was a pleasure knowing and working with Gary in Meriden. He was such an easy going guy and will truly be missed! My condolences to you and the family!

  36. Have so many great memories of Gary at Roller Haven many years ago. Enjoyed all the good times! Will always remember that great smile as he skated around the rink! My condolences to the family.

  37. Lourdes, Sara and Matt-Words cannot express how sorry we are for your loss. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and that we are here for you.
    All our love, Shari and Lindsey,(and family). 💕

  38. Rest in peace Gary. We are stunned by your passing. The entire gang at Wolcott Landowners will miss you greatly!
    I pray for you and send our most sincere condolences to your wife and family.

  39. Lourdes and family,
    So sorry to hear about your husband’s sudden passing. Gone too soon. Prayers for all of you.

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