April 6, 1956 ~ August 7, 2020

Born in: New Haven, CT
Resided in: Hamden, CT

Gary P. Buchter, 64, of Hamden, passed away on August 7, 2020. Born in New Haven, CT on April 6, 1956, a son of the late Warren and Charlotte Vaughn Buchter. He is survived by his brothers, Warren G. Buchter Jr. and his wife Cinda of Florida, and Mark Buchter and his wife Suzanne of Ansonia; step-mother Edith Buchter; stepbrother Christopher Towle and his wife Diane; stepsister Laura Curran; and half sister Kimberly Moran and her husband John. He also leaves behind many aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, great- nieces, and great-nephews. Besides his parents, he was predeceased by his brother Robert Buchter, and his stepbrother Nelson Towle. Gary worked at several machine shops; Precision Metal Products, Courier Machine and Automation Tool. He had a passion for motorcycles, loved boating, and his favorite pastime was fishing. Many memories were had at Lake Wintergreen and West Rock. Gary had a big heart and will be missed by all, especially Michelle, Jeffrey, and many close friends that are country wide. Due to the Covid Health Crisis, private graveside services celebrating Gary’s life will be held at All Saints Cemetery, 700 Middletown Ave., North Haven at the convenience of his family. Arrangements are under the care of Beecher & Bennett, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden. Memorial contributions in his name may be made to the American Cancer Society, P.O. Box 22478, Oklahoma City, OK 73123, www.cancer.org.


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  1. So sorry for your lost Warren G. Buchter Jr. Prayers are with you and your family. May he rest in pease. Linda Swett Goodrow.

  2. Warren and Mark
    I was sadden to hear about your brother Gary. I remember all the Fourth of July cookouts at Warren’s and how all of the brothers got together to shoot off the fireworks. The video brought back many memories of family gatherings. My prayers are with you both.

  3. Rest in Peace Gary, my deepest sympathy to your family…Chris I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have such great memories of Gary from way back when, he was such a nice guy, always a smile..the motorcycles..I’m lucky our paths crossed.

  4. Gary will be missed and remembered fondly. My condolences on your loss.
    Mark, you did an EXCELLENT job with the photo wheel above.
    FYI – That 1974, blue, 360 Yamaha Enduro, is still in my mom’s garage!

  5. Mark, Warren,Chris my condolences on the passing of Gary, may he Rest In Peace.The photos brought back some great memories of Gary.We all had some great times.My mind goes back to the trip to Maine in your old brown Ford van Mark, wow what a trip.In closing again,to all your families my respects,again may he Rest In Peace.

  6. Mark, Warren, Chris, my condolences on the passing of Gary. He was a good man and a good friend. The photos brought back many good memories ,great job. The one I recall, was the trip to Maine in your old brown Ford? van Mark, wow what a Trip. Good times we had, in closing again my respects to you and your families , may Gary Rest In Peace .

  7. What a beautiful and joyous video and a wonderful celebration of Gary’s life. Loved seeing the old, old pictures of “the brothers“. Great to see old pictures of Dad. It was a gift to all. All the hopes and dreams live on in his memory.

  8. For the short time I knew Gary I could not have asked for a better friend. Alaska, Maine, Englishtown, Dead shows, and many other late night excursions. A good man who was always ready for adventure. May he Rest in Peace. My Condolences to Mark, Chris, and their families.
    Paul J Auletta

  9. I have many memories of our childhood together. Our family was very close. Your mom loved me life I was hers. Warren, Mark I’m so sorry for your loss. As we grow older sometimes we direct our sails in different directions. Wish I could be there to reconnect. We are cousins for life! Rest in peace Gary! xoxoxo

  10. Warren & Mark,
    So very sorry for your loss. What a beautiful video tribute you created! It really highlights the good times and adventures you had as brothers and a family. I have many fond memories of visits to Main Street, where it was always bustling with activity. I particularly remember how much Gary loved the motorcycle. He took me for rides when I visited on college breaks, and I have photos of him years later with my kids on the bike in the driveway. He was always ready for an adventure. May your happy memories help sustain you and give you comfort. You are in my prayers.
    Laura (Ede)

  11. RIP Gary B., with sincere condolences to family and friends. I haven’t seen Gary since…those couple weeks in AK…40 years ago, but I have great memories of spending time with him and the Hamden crew from around ’77-’80…and will always remember him scaring the…bloody out’a me, purposely, but in good fun, on the back of a sick-fast Kawasaki bike, circa 1978. I am saddened to hear of his passing. Best wishes to all of Gary’s people, my thoughts are with you.

  12. My condolences to all the family. I share so many fond memories of Gary as well. The lovely video was a heartfelt tribute to Gary and all the lives he touched. May these happy memories linger on.

  13. Thank you for sharing these pictures. It really helps to see and know Uncle Gary as a person throughout his life. Sending our love to the whole family.

  14. Earliest memories of Gary: camping out back behind the house in the early 70’s with the boys and of course the faithful dog, Tyke. As the youngest member always looked up to Gary; he always had a calm manner about him and the type of guy who seemed to always be able to work through a problem.
    Some of the last memories: blew into town August 1982 and always knew where Uncle Warren hid his house key. Gary was around and four of us (John Hughes or Gary White?) went up to Hartford to see the Talking Heads play at a bar – what a blast!
    Godspeed Gary; hope you are out there at the transom of the boat, with lines out, waving back at us.
    “Stepcousin” Scott

  15. Thank you for the memories, Gary would have appreciated the tribute. There was a quiet strength about him, an all encompassing love of the outdoors, and a verve for action and adventure. This was on display whether he was skiing the Swiss and Austrian Alps, exploring Nova Scotia, Grand/Bryce canyons, and the Alaskan wilderness or boating, fishing, snorkeling in the Caribbean, FL Keys, Maine, or LI Sound. To be sure there were some scary times also, like when he was adrift on LI Sound with Bobby & Mark, thankfully rescued the next morning by the Coast Guard. Or the immense relief I felt when he decided to give up racing motorcycles at Lime Rock. Then there was the time I thought we were going to plunge to our death in Moosehead Lake after a flight on a pontoon plane, never a dull moment. He will always hold a special place in my memories and heart.
    Love Always, Patty

  16. Great job Mark. Miss those days and the fun we had. Everyday was a new adventure. Rest in Peace my friend…tight lines!

  17. Rest In Peace Gary. Mark, Chris, so sorry for your loss. Those pictures brought me back to the good old days. Gary was a good guy always a smile fun to be around

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