Gwen L. Lacoske, 55, of Meriden, passed away on April 2, 2020. She was born in Meriden on July 10, 1964, a daughter of Anne Bystrek Lacoske and the late Jere Lacoske. Besides her mother Anne, she is survived by her loving daughters Jessica Fedina and Ashley Gudrian, both of Middletown, and brothers Jere Lacoske and his wife Koren of Waterford, and Brett Lacoske and his wife Kelley of Deep River. Gwen graduated from The School of Hairdressing and Cosmetology at H.C. Wilcox High School, which was an early showing of her creativity in life. She had a passion for baking and was an amazing cake decorator; there was never a birthday without a homemade cake. She loved holidays; a time with lots of decorations and even more gifts, a trait she passed on to her two daughters, who were her world, and was always doing her best to make those days special even when times were tough. She loved with everything she had, even when she didn't have a lot. That's one of the most beautiful things that moms can do; make the most out of the least, and Gwen had that superpower. She was always making things and taking on D.I.Y projects and was always eager to share her knowledge with others. One of her best and most notable traits, besides her great-smelling lotions and perfumes, was her sense of humor; she was always the funniest person in the room and joked about everything. She loved to make people laugh, whether it was a stranger she met while working as a veterinarian, or her own family and friends. She would remember the names of all the pets and their owners who came in, and loved to crack up her co-workers. Taking care to make sure that each person and the animals that she loved felt safe and welcome was just her nature, and she prided herself on the relationship that she had with each of her clients. Gwen loved music; she loved pop music from all decades, but Lynyrd Skynyrd was her absolute favorite. She loved the beach as well, Rocky Neck was a place of many momentous occasions in her life. All of these things make up a woman who was such a strong person, who gave these beautiful and amazing traits to her daughters to carry on. People see Gwen in her children, and those things are often the things people love most about them; what came from mom. She was like that. She gave all the best parts of herself to those around her. Services are being privately held and are under the direction of Beecher & Bennett-Flatow Funeral Home.

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  1. -Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.. -John 14:1-4 ESV- My thoughts and prayers with Jessica and Ashley during this time.

  2. I love you Gwen I will never forget the great team at work .When I came in and you were there I new it would be a great day. The joking and laughter was wonderful .You had a wonderful heart caring so much for everyone .I just cant say enough what a sweet soul you are and a great friend Love Mare

  3. I remember when we were kids playing outside especially kick the can. My heart goes out to your family. May you rest in peace. Cheryl O’Loughlin

  4. I want you two to know that the thing I remember the most about your Mom, like it was yesterday was that wonderful laugh she had. Completely full of life. You can’t fake that. You are in my thoughts at this difficult time. Love, Ray White.

  5. My heart is sad hearing this news. I met Gwen when our girls were in elementary school together and saw her each time our fur babies went to the vet. She was a very nice lady and my heart goes out to her family and her coworkers.

  6. Our deepest sympathy. We met Gwen only a few times but do know one thing about her…..she has an amazing daughter that we love…Ashley. Wishing your entire family loving memories and strength during this difficult time. Robin and Dean Del Veccchio

  7. So very so for your loss. Met your mom when she was a secretary for a doctor in Yalesville and at the Eastside Vet. R.I.P. The St.John Family

  8. So very so for your loss. Met your mom when she was a secretary for a doctor in Yalesville and at the Eastside Vet. R.I.P. The St.John Family

  9. I’m in shock. I talked to her about six months ago. She sounded happy and said she was doing really well. I’ve known Gwen since we were 19 We work together at Connecticut Baptist Home. She was a wonderful person, very caring and Outgoing. We were in each others weddings. I’m so sorry that she’s passed away. She will be missed

  10. We got to see Gwen very often when our elderly cats needed frequent trips to East Side Veterinary Clinic and we came to regard her as a friend. She never failed to make me laugh. And she was deeply compassionate. Each time a cat passed, Gwen came out from behind the counter to give us a hug. When my mother-in-law died, she called us to offer condolences because she had lost her grandmother and she felt our pain. Gwen was a good soul with a big heart, and that heart stopped beating much too soon. Godspeed, Gwen.

  11. Although I ony knew Gwen for a short time I knew right away she was a blessing. She had a gentle kindness about her. She carried a contagious smile and made us laugh. Heartbreaking that she left this earth so soon but know she touched many and her memories will live on. Sympathy, peace and love to her daughters and family

  12. Gwen had an amazing sense of humor and her wit naturally made everyone around her smile. Even with the most difficult of situations in emergency reception, Gwen cared so much for the pets and clients she was helping in our hospital. She loved her kitties so! We will truly miss her warm and gentle heart. Sending sincere condolences to Gwen’s family during this difficult time.

  13. Although I haven’t been at Colony Brooke very long, my husband and I send our condolences to her family. Steven Clavet and Nancy Clavet #35

  14. Gwen’s smile and laughter will be missed! Even on the most busiest of days, Gwen always managed to remain calm, smile, and keep things light. I will miss her joyful -good morning- greeting! She always managed to make people smile. Rest In Peace.

  15. Gwen’s steadfast kindness brought comfort to so many pet owners at our hospital. She was a joy to work with and will be dearly missed. My deepest sympathies to her daughters and family. .The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit.. Psalm 34:18

  16. I’m deepest condolences to the entire family, I still can’t look out my kitchen window I still expect our evening hand wave , and your beautiful smile when you came home. I am grateful God allowed us to meet such a beautiful soul. # 56 the Laureano family

  17. I am so very sad and heartbroken for Gwen and her family. I worked with her only once a week but what fun did we did have together! She always made a very busy and hectic day go smoother with her infectious smile and laughter. I will miss hearing her greet me on Wednesday mornings, -There’s my Trish-. Gwen was such a kind-hearted, caring and compassionate woman. She very clearly loved caring for the pets and clients at the animal hospital that we worked at. I’m truly sorry for your tremendous loss of Gwen.

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