MERIDEN - Judith A. Spencer, 71, went to be with the Lord on Monday, December 31, 2007, while at home with her family by her side. She was the loving wife of and is survived by James R. Spencer, Jr. Born in Meriden on August 17, 1936, she was the daughter of the late Robert and Dorothy Carey Bemis. She is also the sister of Roberta B. Palmer of Port Orange, FL. A lifelong resident of Meriden, she graduated from Meriden High School and St. Luke's School of Nursing in New York City. She was an R.N. who practiced at many area hospitals, finally retiring in 2000 after 20 years of service at The Masonic Home & Hospital in Wallingford. She was a long time member of First United Methodist Church. Judy was very involved in The Order of Eastern Star, Meridian Chapter #8 and served as Connecticut's Most Worthy Grand Matron from 2000-2001. Besides her husband, three sons and their wives: David and Leisha Spencer of Trinity, FL; Scott and Elizabeth Spencer of Annandale, NJ; Marc and Megan Spencer of Enfield, CT survive her. She was the proud grandmother of seven: Kristin, Layne, Ellery, Katherine, William, Evan and Aidan. The funeral will be held at 2 p.m. on Saturday, Jan. 5, 2008, at the Beecher and Bennett Flatow Funeral Home, 48 Cook Ave., Meriden. A reception will follow at the Rogers Memorial of First United Methodist Church, 159 East Main St., Meriden. Relatives and friends may call at the funeral home Friday from 5 to 8 p.m. The Order of Eastern Star, Meridian Chapter #8 will conduct a service at 7 p.m. Friends may also call at the funeral home Saturday from 1 to 2 p.m. prior to the service. Thanks from the family are extended to Dr. Kathleen Sorcinelli and staff for the professional and personal care and attention. In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to the V. M. Painter Cancer Research, c/o Grand Chapter Office, O.E.S., P.O. Box 143, Plymouth, CT 06782.

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  1. A wonderful lady, a great sense of humor and a good friend. She will be dearly missed.

  2. AJ-You will be missed each and everyday. You will remain near and dear in our hearts. We will cherish our memories. All our love, Bunny and Chris

  3. Always hold dear to our hearts the fun times and special moments with all our counterparts. You were someone very special, Judy. Love, Danny and Pat

  4. Amma – I love and will miss you here but will see you in my dreams. Thank you for making my first Christmas a memorable one. Say hey to Ev when you see him! Love you lots and lots and parking lots.

  5. Bobbi and Family, You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! I am so sorry for your loss.

  6. Bobbi, John and Family, At a time like this, no words can ease the pain. God gives us our beautiful memories so that the ones we love live forever in our hearts and thoughts. May you find comfort in this love. Love, Anna & Steve Cady

  7. Brother Jim, Our hearts are sick for your loss. We will pray for you, your family, and your wonderful wife. Judy’s good humor and positive dedication were a unique gift to the world that cannot be replaced. With deepest sympathy, Don and Louise Murray

  8. Dave – My sincerest sympathy to you & your family at this sad time. In my thoughts & prayers, J.C.

  9. David, My sympathies to you and your family on your loss. You shared with me with great pride the courage and grace in which your mother was facing her final days. I’m sure you and your family will find that same strength as you cope with your loss in the days ahead. God Bless.

  10. Dear Berdie (Roberta) and Family, My heart and prayers are with you always. This has been a hard couple of years. May God be with you and know that Judy will forever live in your hearts. Love, Julia Wiggins, City of Port Orange Family

  11. Dear Birtie, John & the entire family of Judy, We are so very sorry for the loss of your sister, Judy. I know how much she meant to you & you will miss her dearly. Please give our condolences to the entire family and let them know they are in our thoughts and prayers. Love, Nan & Randy Milholen

  12. Dear Jim and Family, Deeply sorry for your loss. May your memories keep her close to you always. Fraternally, Elaine R. Wallace, PGM MA

  13. Dear Jim and Family, Words aren’t enough to say what a loss you and everyone who knew Judy face at this time. I know that she is bringing a smile to the Angels in Heaven and the pain she suffered has passed from her. I can never forget what a true Angel she was and all she did for me when I needed a friend. My love and prayers to all of you. Star Love, Blythe

  14. Dear Jim and Family: Judy was a great lady and it was a pleasure for me to be with her at many of our functions. Please know that my sincere sympathy goes to you and your sons. Sincerely, Marie

  15. Dear Jim and family: Please accept our deepest sympathies at this most difficult time. Judy was a lovely person and will be missed. We are unable to attend as Vince is recuperating from surgery. Again our thoughts and prayers are with you. Take Care, Vince & Lori Cowie

  16. Dear Jim, David, Scott, Mark and family: Judy was a great lady full of love, kindness and humor. Our travels brought us together and we will have many fond memories of our time together. Judy always made us laugh and always had a joke for us. We always had fun when we were together. We know that she is in Heaven and that she is sharing her humor with Jesus and the angels. Jim, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Even though we wish Judy was still with us, we know that she is at peace and has gone on to a better place where we will meet her again. Much love, John, Bridie and Bridget McGuire

  17. Dear Marc and Megan and the Spencer Family, I am so sorry for your loss and am thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. It’s nice that Evan has his grandmother with him though, and hope that provides some comfort to you as you face this difficult loss. You’re in my heart and prayers…

  18. Dearest AJ, While our hearts are heavy down here, we know that the Angels are smiling away now that you are with them. You always knew how to make us smile! You were loved by every person who’s path you crossed. You were truly a remarkable woman and an even better Aunt. We will miss you today, tomorrow, and forever; but we will never let your memory fade.

  19. Dearest Bobbi and family, Although it wasn’t easy, to drop everything and go. You got to hold Judy one more time… and this you will always know. You said .so long. and not .good bye.. You said .see you in heaven., then started to cry. God needed another angel, so heaven opened the golden gates. Yes,there’s a few more miles between you, and there’s a little more distance apart. But rest asure, Judy lives on strong… she’s forever in your heart!! written by:Sandra Woodman inspired by and In Loving Memory of Brian Poole God Bless love, Sandy

  20. Grandma Judy (Grandma Booty) I’m pretty sure she hated when I said that haha. But anyway, we are all going to miss you down here, but we know you’re partying it up with your parents and Evan. I’m sorry your puzzle was too late but I know you saw it yesterday. But I just want to say that I love you very much, there’s no Grandma that could ever compare to you, I mean who else teaches their grand daughter a game called screw your neighbor? Kristin, Ellery, Katherine, Will and I have so many amazing memories with you and we promise to pass those on to Aidan. Know that you are loved by so many and you will never be forgotten. Thank you for everything. Love, Layne

  21. Grandma Judy, Never has there been or ever will there be a grandmother as wonderful and loving as you. I was so blessed to be brought into this family and to have had such a close relationship with you. I cherish every memory that we share and you will forever remain in my heart. I know you will be my guardian angel in Heaven. Know that we miss you so dearly and I so look forward to the day that I can play cards with you in Heaven. Rest peacefully my sweet grandma, visit me in my dreams. I love you so much and hope I can be the grandmother someday that you have so beautifully shown me. Love Always and Forever, Your one and only, Soap Eye.

  22. I knew Judy from our years on the staff at the Masonic hospital. A caring nurse and always reliable staff person, it was a pleasure to work with her. And that sense of humor! I can’t tell you how many times she brightened our days with a quick story and that marvelous laugh. I think she had as much compassion for others as she had passion in living her life well and with joy. I shall always miss her.

  23. Ill. Bro. Jim, My heart and prayers go out to you and your family at this time. God Bless! Bro. Carl

  24. Illustrious Brother Spencer, I send sincere condolences on the loss of your love and companion. May your trust in God sustain you at this time of pain and loss.

  25. It comforts me to know that my Grandmother will pass through the Pearly Gates with someone we know. My family’s condolences to your family during this difficult time. God Bless

  26. Jim and the rest of the Spencer family: Marcy and I extend our deepest condolences to you. Judy is now at peace and her passing has left a void on the entire Masonic family. Her strenght and encouragemet is a legacy that we shall always cherish.

  27. Jim, Although we may be miles apart, our hearts,minds and prayers, are with you and your family at this time. Chuck & Bobbie

  28. Jim, So sorry we are not able to attend Judy’s services. We are on route home to AR from attending my father’s funeral in south FL. Our sincere sympathies to you and your family, Judy was a great gal and friend. Our counterparts, the Galaxy Stars, were a great bunch!! I am so glad we had a chance for a last get together with you both. Judy will be missed by so many friends in Eastern Star. Star love, Susan Thomas, PGM-NH, Worthy Grand Adah

  29. Jim, We extend our most heartfelt sympathy to you and your entire family. Judy was such a very special person and so fun loving. She is going to be very sadly missed by many.

  30. Jim,David,Scott and Marc, Our thoughts and prayers are with you all and your families. Over the past few years we have shared some very close family moments and feel blest that Judy and her .guys. were there with us for all of them. We love you-Paul and Cheryle

  31. Jim,So sorry we are not able to attend Judy’s services. We are on route home to AR from attending my father’s funeral in south FL. Our sincere sympathies to you and your family, Judy was a great gal and friend. I am so glad we had a chance for a last get together with you both. Judy will be missed by so many friends in Eastern Star. Star love, Susan Thomas

  32. Judy was a special person. I will always remember the New Years Day she and Jim spent at our home in FL. She enjoyed being a .Southerner. for one day by eating black eyed peas, cornbread and collards. We laughed a lot and loved being with her. Her trip to her first .Gator. game was terrific. The picture that was taken of her in my .Gator. hat with a big smile was perfect. She will be missed.

  33. Mom Judy was a fantastic, fun-loving lady who will be sorely missed by all who knew her. Even when she knew things weren’t going to get any better, she still managed to keep her sense of humor…what a wonderful lesson for us all. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you during this difficult time.

  34. Mr. Spencer, David, Scott and Marc I was so sorry to hear about Mrs. Spencer. I haven’t seen all of you in years but I have many wonderful memories of your family and the summers you spent next door to us in Westbrook. It was always a good time when the Spencer Clan rolled into down for their annual vacation. Judy was a wonderful woman and I know I speak for the couple dozen siblings/cousins/aunts/uncles from the house next door when I say I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  35. Mrs spencer was the most wonderful person I have ever met,I will miss her cheerful attitude and her jokes she used to tell me every time I saw her. If everyone was like her, what a wonderful world this would be. My deepest sympathy for Mr. Spencer and his family.

  36. My condolences go out to Judy’s family and friends. I am sorry for your loss. Judy had such an incredible spirit that she made all of our lives a little better. Just her smile could light up a room. I know her death leaves so many people sadden down here, but she has made those in heaven smile to know she has joined them. My prayers are with you.

  37. My Dear Aunt Judy – As we remember you will always think of laughter as you were one to always have it and give it. Thanks! All my love Sherri

  38. My dear friend Judy, It is difficult to put into words how much your friendship has meant to us. We have shared some wonderful times for which we will treasure. You were always the one lighting up the room and the one I wanted to be with. Somehow I know you are doing that in heaven right now. I will always be there for you and Jim and I know you are with us. Miss ya. Love ya. A&B

  39. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Your friends and colleagues offer our heartfelt sympathy for your loss.

  40. Our thoughts and prayers are with the Spencer family at this time of sorrow. We loved Judy and are glad she is no longer suffering.

  41. Please accept our sincere and heartfelt sympathy in your loss. May the love of those around you,help you through the days ahead.

  42. Please accept our sincere and most heatfelt sympathy in your recent loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

  43. stones in a swift running river, carried by time on it’s course, stones smoothed and shaped by the current, returning to infinite source.’ praying that you will find comfort in our Lord, who gathers our loved ones into His arms when their journey is complete. keeping you all in my prayers, …~laurie

  44. The Spencer Family: Roz and I are so grateful to have had the rare and wonderful opportunity of meeting and knowing Judy. May GOD fold you in his arms as you go through this difficult time. God Bless Roz and Al Lobo

  45. To my dear friend and mother-in-law, Judy: You welcomed me (and Kristin) into your family 21+ years ago and I have so many wonderful memories with you and of you. We have shared much laughter, heart to heart talks, simple love and friendship. Though I’m overjoyed that you are with Jesus, I am forever sad that you are no longer with us. My life has been forever changed by our years together and it is forever changed by your passing. I miss you terribly already and I will smile at your photos regularly. You are alive in my heart forever and I will see you in heaven when God so decides. In the meantime, enjoy the heavenlies. I love you!

  46. We are saddened by the passing of one of the greatest ladies that we have ever known. We will miss her smile and wonderful sense of humor. Though we are crying here on earth ,we are sure that she is bringing laughter to her new home in heaven. We too, shall have laughter as we remember the great times we have shared. Our condolences to all the Spencers, George and Brenda

  47. We consider it and honor to have made her acquaintance and cherish the times we spent together. She was a first-class lady.

  48. We consider it and honor to have made her acquaintance and cherish the times we spent together. She was a first-class lady.

  49. We send our deepest sympathies to you, and your family. We are both so very sorry for your loss.

  50. We will surely miss her contagious smile and great sense of humor. To Jim and family our sincere sympathy!!! Star Love, Jean & Joe DeSisto

  51. What a beautiful woman was Judy Spencer. We will all miss her. Our condolances to Jim Spencer and the entire Spencer family. With fraternal love, Bob and Anne Sherrick

  52. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight – Kahlil Gibran

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