September 18, 1933 ~ August 15, 2020

Resided in: Meriden, CT

Lucille Riddle Ray, of Meriden, unexpectedly fell asleep in death at MidState Medical Center on Saturday, August 15, 2020.  She was 86 years young.  It’s with heavy hearts that we say “rest for now” to our dear mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, spiritual sister and friend.  In her early years Lucille was a nurse’s aide at Westfield Manor Nursing Home and a former Residential Counselor for the Rushford Center Safe Home.  On February 22, 1986 she symbolized her dedication by being baptized as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses.  As a member of the Meriden North Congregation, she served as a pioneer for 8 ½ years.  During the quarantine she continued to reach out via letter writing and phone witnessing.  She was faithful to Jehovah until death.

She is predeceased by her husband Philip F. Ray, her granddaughter Tonya Sherri’ Ray, and three great-grandchildren.  Lucille leaves behind two sons, Phillip Steven Ray and Anthony Wendell Ray; and five daughters, Patricia Ann Ray, Arlene Ray, Pauline Buttram (Fredric Buttram), Lucille Delores Harris (Kyle A. Harris), and Melody Janine Ray.  She also leaves behind 18 grandchildren, 22 great-grandchildren; her sisters Jacqueline Knox and Mona Phillip; and a host of spiritual brothers and sisters who loved her dearly.

A special memorial talk will be conducted on Zoom by Larry Shaw on August 24, 2020 at 5:00 p.m.  Please send a login request to:  Due to COVID-19 restrictions, her burial will be private.  Beecher & Bennett-Flatow Funeral Home is assisting with the arrangements.   To share a condolence with Lucille’s family, please visit

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  1. I was so sorry to hear of Lucille’s passing. I only got to know her in the last 18 months since I moved to Charles Street. She was absolutely delightful to be around. She and I always compared our hair, clothes and jewelry in a fashion competition. When I had surgery last fall she checked in with me frequently to see how I was or if I needed tea. I am so sad to know that we won’t get to continue our friendship.She was a treasure to behold. My condolences to all her family. Sincerely, claire

  2. Family: Praying that God will give you His peace – “For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord’s” Romans 14:8 – Pastor Nathaniel J. Fountain Sr.

  3. Dear Ray Famiy,
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. She was always there to encourage us. I’m going to miss her dearly. She is safe in Jehovah’s memory, and we look forward to seeing her again.
    Bryan and Lisa Shoecraft

  4. I’d be remiss if I didn’t speak of those not mentioned in the obituary-you who loved, and respected our mom nonetheless.

    Although our mom was an “only child,” those “like-sisters,” “adopted” sons and daughters, cousins, great cousins, children-whom as adults lovingly referred to mom as Aunt Lucille, and neighborhood children/close friends from Portland, CT., Middletown, Meriden and other locales, please know that Miss Ray, Grandma, Lucy, Aunt Lucille or whatever endearment you chose to lovingly refer to our mom as…know that you all brought joy to her life, and that she adored each and every one of you!

    Thank you all for your outpourings of love, support, condolences, and well-wishes.💔. Respectfully-DeeDee

  5. Our prayers are with you and your family during these difficult times our deepest condolences may God provide you the strength to move on during these difficult times.

    Medina family

  6. To the ray family i’am sorry to hear about the lost of miss ray my condolences go out to the family at this time in need

  7. To the Ray Family,it is with a very heavy heart,I Wish to send you all my deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother. Lucille was a dear friend and neighbor of mine for many years. We were “buddies “ , raised our children side by side , able to depend, respect and trust each other for we were neighbors who loved each other as ourselves and raised our children to do the same. We know about our lives in the alley, so everyone, she will be missed because we loved her but just know that God loves her best, My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of sorrow and always.🙏🏾

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