April 2, 1923 ~ July 16, 2020

Born in: New Haven, CT
Resided in: Hamden, CT

Marjorie Steeves Scott, 97, of Hamden, beloved wife of the late Arthur James Scott, passed away on July 16, 2020. Marjorie considered herself to be a fortunate person to not have one, but two great loves of her life, her childhood sweetheart and husband Arthur, and later her longtime companion of over 25 years, Harry Ruthstrom.
She was the loving mother of Penthy Scott Brandi of Hamden, Jay B. Scott (Sharon) of Tequesta, FL, and Gary J. Scott of Hamden. Beloved grandmother of Kyle, Daniel, and Scott Brandi, James Christianson, Jay B. Scott, Jr. (Teresa), and the late Morgan Rose Scott. Sister of Mrs. Alice Tolmei of Peabody, MA. She is also survived by Harry Ruthstrom’s children; Beth Greeley, Ellyn Ruthstrom, and David Ruthstrom (Sharon), and was the beloved grandmother to his grandchildren; Kate and Taylor Savage, Kyle, Chris, and Alyssa Ruthstrom. Marjorie was predeceased by 2 sisters, Fern Devlin and Catrina Gibbons, and 3 brothers, Ronald Steeves, Carl Steeves and Claire Steeves. She was also the beloved aunt to many.
Born in New Haven April 2, 1923, a daughter of the late Myles and Birdie Steeves, she grew up in West Haven and loved Savin Rock. She attended Larson College and she became the secretary for the head of a food and produce wholesale co. in New Haven, helping put Arthur through school to obtain his engineering degree after WWII. She left in 1952 to raise her family in Mt. Carmel. She returned to work in the early 1970’s. Before retirement she was assistant manager of Wharton Brook Credit Union. She was a longtime member of the Mount Carmel Women’s Club. She enjoyed playing bridge, and was an avid reader. She had a love of history, art, and fashion, and was a very accomplished seamstress, making many things in her own wardrobe. She was a world traveler and some of the highlights of her travels were time spent with family in CA, visiting the town in Scotland where her paternal grandmother immigrated from, whitewater rafting in the Canadian Rockies, riding a camel in Marrakesh, and walking along the Great Wall of China. She embraced exercise and in her 50’s took up cross country skiing, and walking 5 miles 5 days a week, attributing to her being blessed with a long healthy life.
A memorial service will be planned in the future. Arrangements in care of Beecher & Bennett, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden. Memorial contributions may be sent to www.foodforthepoor.org/ben in memory of her late nephew Ben Tolmei.

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  1. Gary,
    I’m so sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. She was a great lady at foot of Cumpstone Drive. What a long, wonderful life she had. My condolences to your whole family.
    – Eileen

  2. To the whole family. we are sending our sincere sorrow for the lose of your mother. She was a wonderful person. We have been your mothers house cleaners. We really enjoyed talking and visiting with her. May she rest in peace. sincerely, Madeline and Joe Cavo, use to be her house cleaners.

  3. So truly sorry for you and the whole family’s loss Gary! She truly was an amazing and beautiful woman! I have a lot of fond memories of Aunt Margie! My mom always says she was a lot more to her than an aunt!
    Love,Kim ❤️🙏🏻

  4. Gary,
    I am very sorry and saddened. I just heard (read) the news. You will always have your mother except that she is in heaven and not with you physically. You will always be her loving son. I don’t think I know anyone that has been such a grateful, loving, and giving son as you have been to your mom. God bless you for bring the kind, giving and loving person that you are. -Steven

  5. Dear Gary and Family,
    My deepest sympathy in the passing of your mom. Gary ,I’m sure she treasured the last few years that you spent so much time with her. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Kerri ( ODonnell ) Stephenson

  6. My sincerest condolences to you, Penthy and Jay with the passing of your beloved Mom. May you all be blessed with the many wonderful memories you and your Mom shared over the years. Sincerely, Carrie Morton O’Connor

  7. We had wonderful times together. I. Introduced her to Harry and then she moved to Medowbrook.

    Miss them both.

  8. Dear Penthy, Gary and Jay,
    We are so sorry to hear of Marge passing away. She was a lovely lady and will be remembered fondly by us.
    Linda & Pat Melillo

  9. My first boss at Wharton Brook Credit Union….a woman with such style and grace…I strove to be like her…truly a great lady…I am so sorry for your loss

  10. RIP to an incredibly well rounded, talented, smart, woman. They certainly don’t make them like you anymore. The time we spent together and the conversations we had with your astonishing feedback and advice.. will always be cherished in my heart. May you celebrate your new body, mind and spirit the way you deserve. My prayers and thoughts go out to your family.. especially to your son, Gary. The man who you depended on the most these last few years and stood by your side making sure you had the love and care you needed and deserved. ❤️ Xoxo

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