In Branford, Friday, February 8, 2008, Mary Deyermond Kaye, 86, of Hamden. Mother of Warren H. Kaye of Las Vegas, NV, Diana K. Harris of Toms River, NJ and Dr. Carolyn K. Lee, of Cleveland Heights, OH and sister of Gladys Markert of Hardwick, MA. Mary is survived by four grandchildren, including Ashley Voos of NYC, formerly of Hamden. She also leaves two great-grandchildren. She was predeceased by a brother, Robert V. Deyermond and a sister, Isabel Farrington. A daughter of the late Robert V. and Gladys Napier Deyermond, Mary was born in Andover, MA October 27, 1921. She attended Simmons College in Boston and received her Masters Degree from Southern Connecticut State University. Mary was a teacher and later guidance counselor in the Hamden school system, retiring in 1988. She was a past president of Hamden Women's Club and the PTA. Friends may visit with the family Wed., Feb. 13 from 4-6:30 pm at BEECHER & BENNETT FUNERAL HOME, 2300 WHITNEY AVE., HAMDEN. In lieu of flowers, contributions in Mary's name can be made to CT Hospice, 100 Double Beach Rd., Branford, CT 06405.

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  1. .Mrs Kaye. was a neighbor, homeroom teacher and a wonderful friend! I have so many warm memories of Mrs. Kaye and the Kaye family from our childhood. Mrs. Kaye even forgave me for overfeeding their dog Ditto with table scraps that I always tried to claim as my own. Most importantly I remember all of the mornings that I enjoyed car rides with Mrs. Kaye to Hamden High School. I admired her ability to engage me in meaningful discussions. She was able to truly listen and to evoke opinions from a High School student. I respected her ability to be open and frank and to truly take the time to hear what I had to say! Like so many others, I remember her beautiful laugh and warm smile. She was a wonderful friend to all of the Goldbergs, especially my Mom. I’m sorry that I will not be able to attend the calling hours, but I send my love and condolences to Diana, Warren and Carolyn. Love, Joe

  2. Auntie Em was my father’s oldest sister. I will always remember her ready smile and musical laugh. She reminded me very much of her mother, my grandmother Gladys Deyermond. Although I had not seen her in person in several years, I will miss her–one of the few remaining links to the memory of my dad. Ginger Deyermond Zemelman

  3. Condolonces to family members. Mrs Kaye was my teacher in high school. She was the only teacher to reach me. I did not listen to many teachers, but more impotantly, none listened to me. She did. She was an inspiration to me, even to this day. She was a wonderful person.

  4. Dear Ashley, Sonia and My thoughts are with you and are just down the block if you need anything. John

  5. Dear Auntie Mary, It wasnt the final visit I had hoped for, but I felt you there. Here’s a toast to you. The wine is on ice. R

  6. Em, you were beside me for many weeks during rehab. Without your tender, loving attention, I would not have been able to return to myself. Having .Friendly’s. ice cream when we (your grandchildren) were younger, then wine in the afternoon later on, you always had a wonderfully kind and loving demeanor that filled us with a grandmother’s warmth. Your presence will be missed throughout my life.

  7. I had Mrs Kaye in my Sr. year at Hamden High. She was a sweetheart. She was kind and perceptive and a darn good teacher. My deepest sympathy to you all. Carl Jordan

  8. I have so many fond memories of my Antie Em. My favorite is that she always sent me a $5 bill for my birthday to buy icecream and I always did. She even sent me money after she had her first stroke. I had not seen her since my dad passed away 2/14/94, but we spoke on the phone several times a year. She had the best laugh and was always upbeat. I will miss her but am thankful for all the memories and pictures we have to make us smile and laugh when the tears have dried

  9. I met Em 2 weeks ago for the first time. Although I feel like I’ve known her all my life. Ashley has told me so many wonderful stories about Em. Stories I can only wish I was a part of. She greeted me with a great smile and a kiss 🙂 despite the fact that she wasn’t feeling her best. She even sang a little for me. The short time I spent with Em was invigorating and delightful. It’s amazing how she filled a void in my life in such little time. Thank you Em, I will miss you. Johnny. xoxo

  10. I remember the first time I met your mom — we all walked around Desert Breeze Park. I liked Mary immediately. What a sweet, gentle soul (and a good sense of humor!). Our thoughts & prayers are with you, Warren, and all your family. My life has truly been blessed with knowing you and your mom. All our love — Christian, Jill, & Elsa 🙂

  11. I would like to say that Mrs. Kaye was a very pleasant person to chat with the few times that I met her. The kind of lady that I would have loved to have as a relative. Her son Warren is a wonderful person to have stopped his life in order to take care of his mother and keep her at home for as long as possible. That is very commendable on his part and it really shows how good of a son he really is. My condolences go out to the entire Kaye family and I do hope that all of you find comfort in knowing she is at rest now. Very sincerely, James Hill Westport, Ct.

  12. It was wonderful to meet your mom, Warren. She really seemed to enjoy the Karaoke and of course listening to your wonderful voice. She will be missed but not forgotten. Maybe she can get together with my dad up there and talk about how great the music was in the 40’s! Our prayers are with you and your family…Love Patty .The Energizer. & Rob .Babydoll. Shock

  13. Mary Kaye was an intelligent, bright loving woman who was a joy to be around. I will miss her dearly. The Kaye family is in my thoughts.

  14. Mrs Kaye was my teacher, I have never forgot her kindness and understanding. This remarkable woman is a testament to the importance of what teachers accomplish. My life is better for having been taught by her.

  15. My love and condolences to my dear friend Warren and to all of Mary’s family and friends. May Mary rest in peace and may all of her loved ones feel joy and gratitude in the memory of her presence among us. With love from Brian

  16. thank you Warren for bringing Mary to our Thanksgiving and that was the last time the girls got together and could remember the occassion.

  17. Thinking about Em,I have such wonderful,fond memories. Many as old as 30 years and some as new as last week. As Ashley’s good friend, I enjoyed many fun (and delicious)days at Em’s house. A typical night would be Diana on the stool, Ashley and I at the table and Em cooking up something wonderful at the stove. She was also the first person to serve me a proper cup of tea (with lemon of course!)And always served with some great advice, a story of when she was a young girl, or some anecdote about one subject or another. Always there to greet with a beeming smile and spirited laughter, Em will always be a an integral part of my upbringing. I will miss you, Em With lots o love, Andrea

  18. To my cousins with sadness,sorrow and warm remembrances… We will miss your Mom’s laughter and gift-of-gab!Love to all-David and Linda and Joe Allard.

  19. To my second Mom, One of the highest quality people I have ever known, whose beauty and grace made life sweeter. I carry you with me. As always, Big Love, Howard ps – Save a seat for me.

  20. To the Kaye family and specifically Warren: You are in our thoughts and prayers during this time. We hope that you can move forward with a smile on your face from the memories of all the joy and happiness your mother has brought to so many people. Although I never had the opportunity to meet Mary, just reading the notes other have left here show what a special lady your mother was. May God bless all of you. John & Susan.

  21. Warren and I met in college and I first met Mary when I visited his home one Christmas. She welcomed me and made me feel at home and part of the family. Although I moved to Israel in ’75 and have lived here since, I spoke to her occasionally over the years and always felt very connected to her. She always wanted to visit Israel, and a few years ago, even though she had been ill , she insisted on making the trip with Warren. My husband and I had the pleasure of being their tour guides around Israel, and it was for all of us, a wonderful and special visit. I’m so glad she was able to make the trip. We were recently in the states, and were lucky to be able to visit with her one last time in her home. She was a very special lady and will be missed. She also raised a very special son, who put his life on hold for several years to take care of her and be with her. To you Warren, my condolences and love. Judi

  22. Warren, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. Bless you all, Rick and Gael

  23. Warren: Please accept my family’s condolences on the recent loss of your mother. It is never an easy path we follow when our parents become ill and unable to care for themselves. I am so proud of the care and devotion you have provided to her throughout the years and I hope you rest easier knowing that she is finally at peace and in a better place. Sincerely, John, Carol and Adam Marenholz

  24. You were my hero, my confidant, my Aunty M., but most of all my friend.I loved you from the minute I met you, and I know you felt the same way, too.You made every occasion that we celebrated special, and the Dunkin Doughnuts you brought every time you came to Hardwick were the best!! You were always upbeat, even tho you had a tough road to hoe… I will never forget the family reunion at 91 Elm St. and the pig roast…the birthday party for you at Phillips Academy,my wedding to Mark, and you were unable to attend because you were in the hospital.. we missed you so. You ARE my rock. I will miss you so, but at least we got to see you last Sunday, and you knew we were there, because you smiled at me, through the haze…. WE LOVE YOU, MANDY XOXOXOX

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