Mary J. Hasbrouck

mary hasbrouck

November 30, 1956 ~ June 27, 2021

Born in: New Haven, CT
Resided in: Middletown, CT

Mary Jeanne Hasbrouck passed away from Metastatic Breast Cancer, peacefully surrounded by loved ones, on June 27, 2021. She had a fantastic life. Mary always said she would not have changed her life for anything. Cancer, although a fierce disease, introduced her to many wonderful people and experiences which she would not have had otherwise. Metastatic Breast Cancer was a wicked foe that she fought strong and hard for many years. This disease takes no prisoners. Mary did not lose her battle with Cancer, she WON her battle when she left this earthly body and reunited with her parents, who walked with her up the stairway to heaven. Mary wanted to recognize and thank the staff at Smilow Cancer Center in Orange, who have been with her since she was originally diagnosed in 2008. She loved them all, but Dr. Lasala will always have a special place in her heart. They were caring, loving, understanding, and always there for her. Mary is thankful and grateful for all the wonderful people who sent support and encouragement through countless phone calls, cards, texts, and visits. She felt blessed and honored to have been raised by two loving and caring parents and to have three fantastic, supportive, and loving sisters, along with her brothers-in-law and numerous nieces and nephews who were always there whenever she needed anything, and her great-nieces and nephews who always made her smile and laugh.
Mary was predeceased by her parents, Donald and Beverly (Searle) Hasbrouck. She is survived by an uncle, Thaddeus Hasbrouck; sisters, Linda Ruggiero, Carol (Donald) Forand, and Vicki (Russell) Arpin; nieces and nephews, Kristine (Marc) D’Andrea, Melissa Ruggiero (MJ Ingram), Kimberly (John) DeLuca, Kenneth Ruggiero, Jr., Rebecca Forand, Nicole (Michael) Petersen, and Tyler (Stephanie) Arpin; great-nieces and nephews, Colton D’Andrea, Aubrey DeLuca, John DeLuca, Jr., Kaitlyn Forand Flyntz, and Joshua Forand Flyntz; and brother-in-law, Ken Ruggiero.
To respect Mary’s wishes, her family will not be holding any traditional services but will celebrate Mary’s life privately. BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave., in care of arrangements. Mary asked that, in lieu of flowers, please be kind to someone. Call a friend or reach out to someone you haven’t spoken with in a while. Forgive someone. All acts of kindness are appreciated. Donations can be made in her memory to Little Pink Houses of Hope at, Metastatic Breast Cancer Research at, or Smilow Cancer Hospital at

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  1. Dear Vicki, Russ, and family,
    We are so sorry for your loss, please accept our sincerest condolences. We are keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers.

    John, Donna, and Amanda Perriello

  2. Vicki, Nip, and Family,

    So sorry to hear about Mary passing.
    Please accept my deepest condolences.

  3. Mary was a good friend and a very special person. She will be missed tremendously. Our heartfelt sympathy to her family.
    With sympathy, Cindy & Frank Nero

  4. Mary was a special friend & a wonderful neighbor. She fought a tough battle. Our sympathies to all the family. Richard & Jan Reutenauer

  5. To all of Mary ‘s extended family: she was a close friend and I will miss her tremendously! She was always happy and positive. I often confided in her with issues in my life. She always had good advice. I know she is just as happy now and wanting everyone to be happy for her. I love you Mary and will forever miss you.

  6. We are so very sorry for Mary’s passing. She was truly a great friend and neighbor. Princess and our dog Ranger loved each other. I will miss our chats and dog play time. Thinking of all of you during this difficult time.

  7. To Carol and all the Family,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. When someone that’s loved and such a loving person passes, it’s hurts.
    Sending loads of comfort.
    Love to all,
    Patty Tucker

  8. Rest In Peace Mary. You are the brightest light around and an amazing friend and you will always be in our hearts. We cannot thank you enough for the kindness and friendship you have shown us throughout the many years of knowing you.
    The Vitale Family

  9. Dear Vicki, Linda and Carol,
    Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of your dear, sweet sister, Mary.
    For sure, Heaven has received a new angel.
    She put up a good fight and now she is at peace.
    My condolences to the whole family.
    R.I.P., Mary.

  10. Oh Mary. You were the bravest, strongest, happiest, patient, loving person I knew going through so much for so long. Yet you helped me through, and were so supportive, when I had breast cancer. I will miss our talks and you so much. May you R.I.P. you will always be in my heart.
    My condolences to the family. Love you all ❤️❤️

  11. Dearest Mary, you will be missed so much especially by the little ones. You have always been such a special friend to my family and the love shown to us will always be cherished! Hope you are smiling as always, up in heaven! I can’t tell you how much we will miss you!
    Our deepest sympathies to Mary’s family! From Marini, Dominic, Yara and Kiki

  12. Mary exemplified all things incredible and wonderful…faith, hope, love, family, strength, happiness, grace and poise. A role model to all who knew her, so many good deeds to hold as close memories. Good and faithful servant, may you now enjoy rest in His eternal and heavenly peace.

  13. So hard losing someone so very special… Mary will always be with you all and watching over you.
    Thinking of you all, Love, Rick, Maria and family

  14. My deepest and Heartfelt Sympathy on the passing of Mary…She, along with the entire Hasbrouck family, has always held a special place in my heart…May Mary rest in the Eternal Peace of Our Lord, Jesus Christ..

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