Mary McGouldrick Slater, 55, of Hamden, loving wife of Robert D. Slater, Jr., passed away on December 30, 2018 after a courageous battle with cancer. She was born in West Hartford on March 24, 1963 to the late John and Beverly Seaward McGouldrick. Along with her husband, she is survived by her brother Michael McGouldrick, daughters Megan Alling and Melissa Bury, son Robert D. Slater, III (Michele), grandchildren BeverlyAnn Haynes-McGill, HaileyJames Alling and Thomas Alling Jr., Joaquin and Jonovan Ayala, Madison and Barrett Bury, and Aiden and Alexander Slater. She is predeceased by her brothers John, Thomas and Edward McGouldrick. After graduating from Hamden High School, Mary went on to work for Fleet Bank in Hamden, and then as office manager for Dr. Kaplan, DMD for over 25 years. She was a proud member of The North Haven Sons and Daughters of Italy, and the Teamster Horseman Motorcycle Association. In her free time, she loved crocheting, ceramics, and was a fantastic cook. On Saturday, Jan. 5 friends are invited to meet directly at Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Church, 2819 Whitney Ave., Hamden for a Mass of Christian Burial, which will be celebrated at 11 a.m. Visiting hours will be held on Friday, Jan. 4 from 4-8 p.m. at Beecher & Bennett Funeral Home, Hamden. Interment will be private at the convenience of the family. Memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society, P.O. Box 22478, Oklahoma City, OK 73123.

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  1. To Mary’s Family,
    I knew Mary through my son Ken and their friend Joyce. Mary spent many hours with her friends at my house. She was one of the most loving, caring people I knew. I know she will be missed by all who knew her. My deepest sympathies to all of you.
    Sharon Krischtschun

  2. Mary you were a great friend RIP my dear Mary I will miss you everyday Love you Thoughts and prayers to your family

  3. Dearest Mary,. Your sweet warm smile and wonderful caring ways soothed and delighted all who knew you and quickly came to love you. You will forever be missed in our group of friends who met at Pannera for dinner and hours of conversation, family stories, laughter and stayed until we were told it was closing time. You lived to cook and bake and your your Italuan Anisette cookies were everyone’s favorite!
    I have have chosen a white feather symbol for you. May float like a peaceful feather in the heavens. Free from the pain you endured during the end if your life.
    Forever in my heart dear friend, may you be lifted into God’s grace and await us to be reunited some day.
    In loving memory and eternal friendship, always. Barb

    I shall forever miss your

  4. Slater Family sorry for your loss of a wonderful woman. Thoughts and Prayers are with you and the family. Aunt Pat

  5. I met Mary through Madeline P. and from the first time meeting her I can honestly say she was a wonderful, good-hearted, sweet person with a smile on her face all the time! Rest in peace and we will have another picnic when I get there!

    Andrea Iazzetta

  6. Gramma,

    WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH….. We are going to miss you and your warm loving hugs and kisses.
    Love always,
    Hailey and Thomas Jr.

  7. I send my deepest condolences for you and your family. Having lost someone is a difficult moment of life. May God provide you the strength you need to cope with this difficult situation. The bible promises a future hope of seeing our dead loved one’s again very soon. John 5:28 says: .Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.. To learn more visit My deepest sympathies

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