Mildred Elizabeth Shaw Mather, 87, of Wallingford, wife of the late Douglas 'Ralph' Mather, passed away on September 29, 2008. Mildred is survived by daughters Marilyn Mather of Guilford and Laurie Longchamps and her husband David of Lewisburg, TN and son Douglas Mather and his wife Sherry of Belgrade, ME. She is also survived by her grandchildren Daniel and Ryan Longchamps of Lewisburg, TN, Trisha Strainer of Quincy, MA and Lisa Strainer of Belgrade, ME. Mildred was born on July 13, 1921 in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, Canada the only child of the late John and Mabel Carmichael Shaw. She graduated with a BA in Art from Queens University in Kingston, Ontario and a Masters in Social Work from McGill University in Montreal, Quebec. After graduation she worked for the Royal Victoria Hospital in Montreal and the Department of Veterans Affairs Hospital in Montreal and Ste. Anne De Bellevue. Mildred came to the US in 1950 and lived in New Haven, CT where she met her future husband. At this time she began working for the Grace New Haven Community Hospital. After her marriage to Ralph, they moved to Hamden, CT where they lived for the next 43 years. After leaving the Community Hospital, Mildred worked for 19 years as a school Social Worker for the Wallingford Board of Education. Nine years ago Mildred moved to Ashlar Village in Wallingford, CT where she acquired a new addition to her family, her beloved dog Champ. She was a long time member of the Hamden Plains United Methodist Church. Her family will always cherish their memories of summers spent at their lake cottage in Holland, MA. Mildred will be remembered most for her kind heart, her compassion, and the way she lived her life in Christ. Friends may visit with the family Thursday, October 2nd from 4-7 PM at BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 WHITNEY AVE., HAMDEN. Funeral Service Friday at 10 AM at Hamden Plains United Methodist Church, 15 Church St., Hamden. Interment will follow in Beaverdale Memorial Park, New Haven. Memorial contributions in Mildred's name may be sent to the Mildred Mather Memorial Missions Fund, c/o Hamden Plains United Methodist Church, 15 Church St., Hamden, CT 06514.

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  1. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I have been a friend of Marilyn’s for the past 13 years. My family and I extend our condolences to the Marilyn and family at this sad time. God bless.

  2. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I am a seamstress at Ashlar and had many a conversation with her. She was very proud of all of you. She was a loving and caring person that will be very much missed.

  3. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. If i did’nt get the paper today I would not have known. I am so glad that I was able to know your mom. She was a beautiful woman with so much faith.She was an inspiration to all. I really enjoyed the times that I was able to spend with her. My thoughts go out to your family. Love, Patti Cascio

  4. I knew Mildred in the Wallingford Public School System. She was a soft-spoken, gentle woman, who cared about our students. I will remember her warm, friendly smile. Blessings to you all.

  5. I know you have all been both dreading as well as embracing this time when you could know your mother was finally free of the struggles of this life. And although you can never really completely get over a time like this, with the love and support of each other, you will be able to get through it as she would want you to. Thinking of you at this time.

  6. I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. I’m happy that I was able to visit your mother and most of you in these last few months. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. Laurie – I read the e-mail of your mother’s passing with a smile on my face. From your description, the scene could not have been more beautiful. A truly compassionate Creator gives us such times to experience and remember. May it be one of the multitudes of wonderful memories your family has of your mother. God bless~ct

  8. On behalf of our School of Education and Dowling College where Dr. Marilyn Mather is a faculty member, I extend our condolences to Marilyn and the entire Mather family on this sad occasion. Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this time.

  9. To Marilyn and Family, I want to extend my deepest sympathy upon hearing of the loss of your mother. Please know that my thoughts are with you. Linda Catelli

  10. To the children of Mildred Mather Your mother was a wonderful person and will be sadly missed. I will always remember her. God Bless to all of you and take care. Karen A. Hoyt

  11. To the children of Mildred Mather: We were neighbors of your mother having lived on Over The Top Rd. in Holland. We remember Mildred jogging by our deck, followed by her dog, on many evenings. Our thougthts are with you in your loss. Bette & Joe Zajac, Meriden along with Ann Pastula from Burlington VT.

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