January 29, 1946 ~ August 3, 2022

Born in: North Canaan, CT
Resided in: Woodbridge, CT

Robert D. Harris, Jr., age 76, died at home on August 3, 2022. He was born in North Canaan, CT, graduated from Housatonic Valley Regional High School, and received his BA from the University of Connecticut in 1967. After serving in the Army in Vietnam, Bob worked for the State of Connecticut his entire career, retiring as the Director of the Office of Fiscal Analysis in 2001. He continued his service to the state on the State Library Board and the Capitol Preservation Board throughout his retirement. Bob enjoyed collecting art and antiques, but is best known for his life-long love of reading and books. In his later years he greatly enjoyed meeting authors at signing events and book festivals. Bob was generous, thoughtful, and funny. He loved to gift books to people, especially when he knew of their interests or hobbies. He also loved chewing gum. Bob is survived by his loving husband and partner of almost 40 years, Father Michael F. Ray, retired pastor of St. Thomas’s in New Haven, his daughters Debra (Ryan) and C. Catherine Ray, sons Phillip (Laurie) and Daniel (Hui), grandchildren Anuhea and Evan, and his sister Patricia Harris Glennon. Bob was a great lover of animals, especially dogs, and was proceeded in death by his beloved rescue greyhound Oberon. A memorial will be planned at the convenience of the family. If you knew Bob, you know he rarely threw anything away including the copious paperwork from the many charities he supported. In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the charity of your choice, as it’s likely one he supported.

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  1. Bob, I know you are missed by many, friends and loved family members. I know you made a kind and thoughtful impression on everyone who knew you. Love, Ruth

  2. I am stunned. Deb–I’m so very sorry. Your Dad was a part of our lives ever so many years ago. Paul greatly respected him and asked him to take part in his Ordination, which he did gladly. We talked at your mother’s wedding to Tony and it was good. My neighbor here in Maine rescues greyhounds and so that will be my choice for a donation. I send you much love. Peg (Mueller) Richardson

  3. Please accept my deepest sympathies.

    Bob Godfrey
    Deputy Speaker Pro Tempore
    Connecticut House of Representatives

  4. I’m so sorry to hear of Bob’s passing. He was a treasured colleague on the State Library Board and went out of his way to welcome me to the Board years ago. I so enjoyed our car rides to meetings together — he was an exceptionally thoughtful, kind person. I’m sorry for his family’s loss and will miss his company and perspective very much.

  5. Bob was my beloved friend for over forty years. He was a kind and thoughtful man, a wonderful teacher, and a true professional of the utmost integrity and honesty. We are blessed to have had him in our midst.

    Sally Martin

  6. To Michael, Deb and the rest of the family, my deepest condolences. Bob was my boss and my friend. I owe my life and lifestyle to him as he hired a stupid young girl in 1980 who ended up truly loving what she did. To Bob, I will miss you and remember you with love and kindness. You are leaving us way too soon.

    Shelly Hyman

  7. We are so sad for your loss!! We enjoyed being your neighbor. Love from us Michael and the rest of your family!! 💕

  8. I’m so sorry to hear about Bob’s death. We haven’t seen each other in maybe 60 years, but in grammar school we were really good friends and close. He was at my house or I was at his. If it was raining we were playing cards (endlessly) or working on our stamp collection. We fell out of each other’s lives in High School but not for any reason. He was a great guy and a good friend, and I’m so sorry that we didn’t reconnect. From the description of his life, I have no doubt that we would have bonded once again……Dave Beaujon, Canaan, CT

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