Shirley Elisabeth Moon Tolmei

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Suddenly, in New Haven, November 11, 2005. Shirley Elisabeth Moon Tolmei of 552 Thompson Ave., East Haven, wife of Peter A. Tolmei, mother of Vanessa Elaina Doheny and her husband, Thomas Doleny, Jr., Peter Charlie Tolmei and his wife, Melanie all of East Haven, sister of Dorothy-Ann Rome and her husband, Charlie, Robert C. Moon and his wife Josee, Charles D. Moon and his wife Shari, all of East Haven and Lenore Capasso and her husband, Michael of North Branford. Grandmother of Alannah E.Doheny, Peter J. Tolmei and Boston Taylor Tolmei all of East Haven. Also survived by 8 nephews, 7 nieces, 2 grandnephews and 2 grandnieces. Born in Brunschweig, Germany, Febrauary 1, 1953, she was the daughter of Eleonore-Ann Bormann Moon of East Haven and the late Charlie D. Moon. Shirley was a Vice President of the Moon Cutter Co. Inc. of Hamden and had attended Quinnipiac University. Shirley's life passion were her grandchildren. Funeral service at BEECHER & BENNETT, 2300 Whitney Ave., Hamden, Tuesday, November 15, 2005 at 10 A.M. Friends may call Monday from 4-8 P.M.

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  1. Bob and I were so saddened to learn of Shirley’s passing. She was a wonderful person and we know how much she loved her family and how important you all were to her. She will always be remebered by us in that way. Please know you are in our prayers and our deepest sympathy to you all at this difficult time.

  2. Dear Lenore & Family, So very sorry to hear of Shirley’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Very Sincerely, Barbara

  3. Dear Lenore and family, Although we are miles away, please know we share your sadness and loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Jeanne and Santi Polis

  4. Dear Moon and Tolmei Families We are all very sad about this tragedy of Shirley’s passing. Words seem so little to say in this moment, but we will always remember Shirley as a good and lovely friend to our family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Shirley. The Freihofer Family

  5. dear pete & family,we were devestated to read about your terrible loss.please know that you are all in our prayers.i remember when you and shirley first dated. she was a sweet wonderful person who will be greatly missed.i know words don’t help, but as long as you have your memories, shirley will always live in your heart. again pete, our deepest sympathy and prayers. love vivian & john magnuson

  6. Dear Pete, Charlie, & Family, Please accept our deep and sincere sympathy. We know there are no words to ease the pain, but know our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. Shirley was a great person, I remember the days from high school, to the marina and the firehouse. I am at a loss for words, so may Shirley be an angels angel now and may God give you the strength and faith Shirley would want you to have. With prayerful sincerity, Anthony Moscato & Family

  7. Dear Peter and Family, I thank God for knowing Shirley. She has been a good friend and business associate to me over all the years knowing the Moon family. I will always remeber her for her pasta Fasooo! I will miss her deeply and think of her often. Love Jim and Bev

  8. Dear Tolmei and Moon Families, I wish to extend my deepest sympathies on the tragic loss of your wife, mother, sister, daughter, grandmother, and aunt. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, Nicole De Chello-Di Nola

  9. Dear Tolmei and Moon families, Please know you are all in our hearts and prayers. This is such a shock. I met Shirley when kelley and Peter were in nursery school. She has always been one of my favorite people. Remember her love for all of you and her grandchildren.We pray that will help you get through this terrible time. With Love, Henry and Judy Butler

  10. Dear Tolmei and Moon Family, please accept our deepest condolences. Our thoughts are with you. We will always remember Shirley as a very special person, full of happiness and love. Your friends from Germany Jens & Jana

  11. Dear Tomei and Moon Family, So very sorry to hear of Shirley’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  12. During this time of grief for the loss of your loved one taken from you too prematurely and too suddenly, please accept our condolences and our sincere, heartfelt sympathy.

  13. Helen And I want to extend our deepest sympathy on the loss of Shirley. We understand her gradchildren were her life’s passion but she will be missed by those of us who knew her best in her work at Moon. Her efficiency and that special pleasant personality of hers will long be remembered. Our thoughts and prayers are with Shirley now and her wonderful family. John and Helen Reeder

  14. I was very saddened to hear of Shirley’s passing. I always enjoyed talking to her and will miss her. My thoughts and prayers are with all members of the Moon family. Mary Ann Primeau Gradco Inc.

  15. It is with profound sadness that we offer our deepest condolences to all your family regarding Shirley’s untimely death. Shirley’s vibrant personality, always making people laugh, a gift, such an honor to know her! It is so difficult to fathom. So heartbreaking! How fragile lifes’ mystery. May the angels whisper messages of peace to your hearts so filled with grief… a grief that has no words… as Shirley makes her journey to heaven. We are so very sorry! Anne DeMusis Murphy & Family

  16. Our coldolence to the family of Shirley. Shirley will be missed by family and friends. We will miss talking with Shirley and sharing stories about our families.

  17. Our deepest sympathies on your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. The Ryone Family

  18. Our very deepest sympathy. Shirley’s passing is such a loss in our hearts of a wonderful woman. Best always….Joe Lowther

  19. Pete, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. Please accept our deepest condolences. Jeff and Jenny

  20. Peter and family, We are so sorry for your loss,Shirley was always a good friend to me, greeting me with a smile or a whimsical expression every time that I saw her. Never a judgemental person , I’m sorry I couldn’t be there in person to express my sentiments, and I hope that God gives you and your family strength to carry on and that your memories of her are as fond and happy as mine are.. Again my condolences Bill Ruotolo and family..(Class of 1970) 2 Richill Road, Branford, Conn. 06405

  21. Peter and Melanie…we are so very, very sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. We are thinking of you…Love, Aunt Gerri and Uncle Jimmy

  22. Peter, We were shocked and saddened to hear that Shirley has passed away. Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family at this time of sorrow.

  23. Remembering past memories of YOUR friendship & fun times at Moon,up at Laurel Locks Campground, and just hanging around your house! Give my love to Papa Smurf (Joe) up in Heaven.

  24. Scootie- When we heard about Shirley’s death we were so shocked and saddened. Whenever someone we love is gone there is always an empty spot in our lives and her passing will be a tremendous loss to all who knew her and loved her. She was a special woman. Our thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.

  25. Shirley was as genuine and kind as a person could be. She was as much generous as she was loving and it was our privilege to have known her. She will live on in our hearts and I’m sure the hearts of many others .

  26. To Mrs.Moon a very special lady. The Moon family and Tolmei family No words can express how saddened i was to hear about Shirley a wonderful and loving person. I am so very sorry about such a great great loss and hope your family strength and love will help you through this terrible time. My prayers are with you all.

  27. To my friends in the Moon and Tolmei family. All of us will miss Shirley, but personally I will never forget all she did for Biddy Basketball, whether it was helping at the stand, or especially all the money she helped raise that put us in the solid position we are in today. As much as she is missed by family, the community and I will miss her as much. I want to thank you for sharing her with all of us. God Bless, love Ric Raffone

  28. To the Moon & Tolmei Families Please accept our sincere condolences and heartfelt prayers on your loss of Shirley.

  29. To the Moon & Tolmei Families, Please accept our hearfelt condolences. In this time of sadness you are fortunate to have such a wonderful family to lean on. Our thoughts & prayers are with you! Your friends, Tom & Cyndee Gulker

  30. To the Tolmei and Moon family:My deepest and hearfelt sympathy for your loss of a most special woman.I personally remember her back in the early Biddy basketball days when her two children were young—- she always had a smile and was always ready and willing to cheerfully lend a helping hand any way that she could. I know all will miss the same things in Shirley. God Bless, Michael Angus and Family

  31. To the Tolmei Family We were so sad to hear about Shirley. We will always remember her beautiful smile and wonderful advice. All our love and prayers.

  32. We are so very sorry and saddened to hear about Shirley’s passing. She was a wonderful person and always had a smile on her face. Shew will be greatly missed. Our prayers are with you all.

  33. We wish to express our sympathy and prayers during this difficult time. Thank you for the memories that we shared with our dad and your family. Antonette Graziano and Family

  34. Words cannot explain the loss felt by everyone… We are so sorry. There are so many memories that we will treasure forever – from basketball, to camping, to parties (and weddings!!), to a cold bottle of .candy. in the morning and, of course, to endure Patsy Cline blaring through stereo speakers on the weekends, while Shirley cleaned!!! (ok, I admit it, Patsy grew on us)… To the entire Moon and Tolmei families: We’ve watched all of your children flourish, under the leadership of incredible parents. Every one of you has served as a role model to us, contributing in one way or another to the parents that we have become. WE LOVE YOU ALL and our hearts are with you… Greg and Chris Morrone

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