William J. May

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William J. May III, 58, of Hamden, loving husband to Carol Stahl May, passed away with his family by his side on Saturday December 3, 2016 at CT Hospice in Branford, after a courageous battle with cancer. He was born in Newark, DE on December 6, 1957. He is survived by his parents William J. May, Jr. and Mary Eastburn May, his son William J. May IV and his wife Briana, his daughters Kelley May and her fiancé Michael, and his youngest daughter Kaitlin May. He also leaves his two grandchildren William J May V, and Carter May. Lieutenant Colonel William 'Bill' May III (Retired) always found a way to serve after completing his distinguished military service. He was a champion of veterans' causes and exemplified his own motto of 'service before self.' With 24 years of military service, leadership roles in the Army Aviation Association of America (AAAA) and his recent inception of the non-profit organization, House of Heroes CT(HOHCT). Bill was a leader and a hero for veterans not only in Connecticut, but across the country. Bill began his service to our country with Army ROTC leadership at the University of Delaware. Upon graduation, he was selected for flight school at Ft Rucker, Alabama. Bill's passion for flight led him to become a maintenance test pilot and found him a spot in Germany. He served as an Aircraft Maintenance Officer and Unit Test Pilot where he was responsible for aircraft personnel and maintaining an operational ready status for his unit. Upon leaving Europe, Bill became the Director of Combat Development at the Aviation Logistic School at Ft. Eustis, VA. He was specifically responsible for developing the requirements of future Army aircraft. When Bill retired from active duty he started a civilian career with Sikorsky Aircraft and moved to Connecticut. He continued his service to our country and joined the CT National Guard, where he served for 17 more years. He became dually qualified as a Blackhawk test pilot for the CT National Guard. Bill's knowledge and expertise of Army Aviation helped form Congressional reviews and Blackhawk procurements for our soldiers. During this time, he was selected to attend the National College of the Armed Forces in Washington DC. LTC May's graduation from the National War College inspired him greatly and led him to pursue his life's passion of serving veterans. Bill's lifetime membership of AAAA has led him to hold many leadership positions within the organization. His most recent endeavor for veterans, House of Heroes, has led him to link AAAA members to service veterans nationally. In 2012, Bill founded the Connecticut Chapter of House of Heroes. Under Bill's guidance, House of Heroes Connecticut has repaired 76 homes in four short years. Bill procured many corporate sponsors including Stanley Black and Decker Tools and Home Depot to complete other House of Heroes home remodels in Delaware, North Carolina, Illinois, Texas, Ohio and Louisiana. Anyone who encountered Bill will attest that he was a consummate professional, getting the job done with excellence, year after year, with no expectation of recognition. Bill's immense impact was not only on the local veteran community, but nationwide. His perseverance after his distinguished military service, along with his dedication and vision towards service and action to others makes him our hero. In his spare time he loved to be with his family, build unique water features, create stained glass, photograph the world, take selfies, head-up Dance Team Support, paint murals and be with 'BaDane'. Friends are invited to visit with Bill's family on Thursday December 15, 2016 from 4-7:30pm in Beecher & Bennett Funeral Home, 2300 Whitney Ave. Hamden. A celebration of his life will take place following the visitation at 7:30pm. Friends are invited to meet directly at Church of the Assumption, 81 Center Road Woodbridge, CT 06525 on Friday December 16, for a Mass of Christian Burial to be celebrated at 10am. Interment with full Military Honors will follow at the CT State Veteran's Cemetery, 317 Bow Lane, Middletown. In lieu of flowers donations in his name may be made to House of Heroes CT, 3000 Whitney Ave. Suite 233, Hamden, CT 06518.

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  1. A man who will live on through his legacies of family, friends and service. Godspeed Mr. Bill!

    .May the road rise to meet you.

    May the wind be always at your back.

    May the sun shine warm upon your face.

    And rains fall soft upon your fields.

    And until we meet again,

    May God hold you in the hollow of His hand.. An Irish Blessing https://uploads.disquscdn.com/

  2. Bill, I didn’t know you that long but through the HOH in CT I became familiar with your selfless commitment to our veterans who are down on their luck and need/deserve our help. I was happy and proud to be a small part of several home renovations. Your family is wonderful (great reflection of you) and I pray that God comfort them for the rest of their lives knowing he took a powerful angel too soon.

  3. Bill, We will never forget you coming to our home, when you didn’t feel well, to see your House Of Heroes project completed. Your attitude of I’m going to do as much as I can, with whatever I have, for as long as I can has left us with humble hearts. Love, Jim and Karen Pfister

  4. Former neighbor and friend, Bill leaves a wonderful legacy and a fantastic family with his loss to us all. Gone too soon from us he will be remembered always as a hardworking, fun loving family man and friend.

  5. I served with Bill in Germany and Virginia he was Clearly .Above the Best.. He was my Battle Buddy and my best Friend. I will miss him dearly. The Poem below is dedicated to Bill.

    High Flight

    Oh! I have slipped the surly bonds of earth,

    And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;

    Sunward I’ve climbed, and joined the tumbling mirth

    Of sun-split clouds, –and done a hundred things

    You have not dreamed of –Wheeled and soared and swung High in the sunlit silence. Hov’ring there

    I’ve chased the shouting wind along, and flung

    My eager craft through footless halls of air…

    Up, up the long, delirious, burning blue

    I’ve topped the wind-swept heights with easy grace

    Where never lark or even eagle flew —

    And, while with silent lifting mind I’ve trod

    The high untrespassed sanctity of space,

    Put out my hand, and touched the face of God.

    John Gillespie Magee, Jr

    I will miss you Bill. Love, Charlie

  6. Kelley (and family) I know i haven’t seen you since high school, may your father rest in peace.

    Sally Shabbott

  7. Carol and family…..my deepest condolences to you, and to all his many friends. A great man. God speed Bill.

  8. I worked with Bill at Sikorsky and shared the experience of being Army Aviator, helicopter pilots … Bill was always a positive force and fun to be around!

    Maybe you didn’t know this …

    Helicopter Pilots Are Different

    . The thing is, helicopters are different from planes. An airplane by its nature wants to fly, and if not interfered with too strongly by unusual events or by a deliberately incompetent pilot, it will fly. A helicopter does not want to fly. It is maintained in the air by a variety of forces and controls working in opposition to each other, and if there is any disturbance in this delicate balance the helicopter stops flying, immediately and disastrously..

    . There is no such thing as a gliding helicopter..

    . This is why being a helicopter pilot is so different from being an airplane pilot, and why, in general, airplane pilots are open, clear-eyed, buoyant extroverts, and helicopter pilots are brooder, introspective anticipatory of trouble. they know if something bad has not happened, it is about to..

    — Harry Reasoner

  9. Our deepest condolences to Carol and Family. Will always remember Bill as a great friend and wrestling teamate from highschool. My wife Carole and I hold special memories and fondness for Bill standing with us as an usher on our wedding day. We are but 2 of the many touched by Bill’s generosity and friendship.

  10. God saw he was getting tired, and a cure was not to be,so he put his arms around him & said come follow me. A golden heart stopped beating hard working hands to rest. God broke our hearts to prove he only takes the best. Rest In Peace my loyal friend.

  11. Carol and family, It’s been a long time but wanted to let you know I’m so sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Bill had a wonderful spirit and kind heart and I know will be sorely missed. Love and hugs to all of you, Diane Carre

  12. Carol and family. I am so sorry to hear about Bill. We have so many fond memories we shared with you all. Bill was such a fun, warm genuine person. I have thought often of you all since I moved. I know he will be greatly missed.

  13. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/… Bill was a friend, a leader, an inspiration to many and always the life of the party. We worked at Sikorsky together, flew in the CT National Guard together and worked on HoH projects together. This is the way I will always remember him — happiest when working for deserving veterans. Rest in peace, my friend.

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